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Thu, 01-08-2009 - 3:27pm
Okay, there seems to be some criticism and negativity about affairs here...imagine that, on an AFFAIR SUPPORT BOARD, but whatever. What I would like to know is, which do you think is the lesser of two evils...two married people having an affair with no intention of leaving their spouses...just out for a good time playing around for as long as they can without getting caught, OR, two married people who are really in love with each other and would like to leave their spouses because they tired of the sneaking around and lying but are trying to figure out the right time and way to end their marriages? What is the difference between the two affairs? :)
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Registered: 08-19-2008
In reply to: gabby4ever2
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 8:57pm
HUH!? You just lost me. What the heck are you talking about? I'm not aware we're taking about EA (emotional affair).... All along I thought we were taking about "extra marital affair" and yes "illicit" means "illegal" if someone is already legally M to someone else. If they want to make that A legal, they have to dissolve (get a D or annul) the other M.


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In reply to: gabby4ever2
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 9:06pm




Yes, EMA....Just because M is a

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In reply to: gabby4ever2
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 9:13pm
Glad to hear that. It is still illicit in my book.


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In reply to: gabby4ever2
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 9:52pm
Illicit

From open-dictionary.com - the free dictionary.


Adjective

1. Breaking social norms. 2. Unlawful


That's the Wikipedia definition


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il⋅lic⋅it


/ɪˈlɪsɪt/ Show Spelled Pronunciation Show IPA Pronunciation


–adjective



1.
not legally permitted or authorized; unlicensed; unlawful.



2.
disapproved of or not permitted for moral or ethical reasons.


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Registered: 08-19-2008
In reply to: gabby4ever2
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 10:04pm

Thanks Clair, I knew I couldn't be that far off in what I was trying to convey.

I just love you Girl!!!

:)



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In reply to: gabby4ever2
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 10:42pm
I do'nt think that there is a lesser of two "evils" in those two situations. Both situations are Affairs but have different expectations for the future.. One is not "holier" than the other. Just because you are madly in love with your AP and want to marry them doesn't score you any brownie points. An A is an A is an A.
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In reply to: gabby4ever2
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 10:51pm

Okay, now that we know your real intent in posing this question.


This debate regarding support vs. criticism always


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Registered: 08-08-2005
In reply to: gabby4ever2
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 2:28am

i think it's funny the issue comes up repeatedly because some posters don't understand that support and blanket criticism are not the same thing. Support should mean that answers vary as the situations vary. But if every answer is "affairs are wrong" then that fails to offer support or recognize that not all affairs are the same.

wonder if that has anything to do with the falling attendance here?

so on to the next part - since i am from the camp that thinks affairs are not all the same. i took "lesser of two evils" as "less intentionally hurtful" - emphasis on intentionally. the sexually affair is purely for fun and is planned without regard to the particular AP and without an intent to change the situation. "we like things the way the are - on the side." the romantic affair is unplanned and happens based on circumstances to lead to an emotional decision with some intent to change the situation. "we recognize it's wrong and we would like to make it right." so i go with less evil in the emotional affair.

IMHO,
Mrs.

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In reply to: gabby4ever2
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 7:33am
Welcome back julz ! :)


Edwina
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Registered: 03-28-2008
In reply to: gabby4ever2
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 11:22am
Gosh, are you happy in your affair? Remember everyone is entitled to their opinion.
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