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| Thu, 07-24-2003 - 8:17am |
As we've been involved for over three years, I don't really have a problem with this and admit that the thought of it turns me on too. However, I guess I have some nagging reservations about it to even be asking for opinions and would particularly like opinions form the males here.
Have any of your MM's ever asked for something like this? Would you/have you ever given him a pair of your panties? And for the males here, if you asked your OW to do that and she did, would your opinion of her change in anyway? Is there something just a bit tacky about this or am I worrying too much?
The other thing is that he would dispose of this item before he went home. On the one hand I'm pleased that he's not the type of male that would take such an item home and secret it away somewhere (that, IMO would be really tacky)! But on the other hand, I wonder about the symbolism of something so personal being consigned to a Detroit hotel dustbin of ilicit pleasures - almost like what we'll share is just as disposable as the item itself.
So, what do you all think? Any and all opinions will be appreciated.
Thank you.
~cheshire

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If you are hesitating about his request, then don't do it. Have you yourself answered the questions in your last post?
Will your opinion change of yourself? Do you think this siuation is tacky? Does the thought of disposing your personals make the R feel disposable?
If you've been together for 3 years and the R is relatively health, then I can't imagine there is a problem. Still, I'm sure even sexier would be you in the flesh! Any chance you could surprise MM?
Best,
Alameda
Yes, I have asked myself all those questions. I know our relationship isn't disposable or about to be disposed of regardless of whether or not I send the requested item. Given the length and depth of the relationship we share, I don't really feel tacky doing it, but I guess I do worry a little about what he'll think afterwards. Like, will he view me as being cheap in some way or will it cheapen our relationship? And of course, if I asked him that question he would vow and declare that he'd never think that of me and would then chastize me for thinking such a thing.
But, he's a only male after all (LOL!!) - and rocket science would be easier to understand sometimes. I think what's nagging at me is that if I do send them, I'll do so because I want so very much to share everything with him and give him pleasure in whatever way I can - but worry for him that it will just be some cheap sexual thrill.
Does that make sense?
~chesire
I don't see anything wrong with the whole idea at all. You've been with him for 3 years, that's a long time. I honestly don't think it would be a cheap thrill for him, it's probably just an erotic turn-on for him, and to be honest...although ALOT of the things I do make me feel 'cheap' some of the times, I think I could pretty much do that without reservation (as if I have alot anyway, lol) But you have to do what makes you comfortable and if you aren't comfortable doing it, just tell him so..I'm sure he'll totally understand (although they are stupid as sh** sometimes). I really don't think he'll think less of you either way, I really don't. Just be sure to go buy a really sexy pair (and if it were me...I'd even include some other Nasty outfit...etc<< then again that's me, which doesn't surprise me) you could even get two pair of the same kind and wear one and send him the other. I mean if that's all you got for right now, go ahead and experience it with him, no one will know but the two of you....AND all of us on this board :0) lol. I wouldn't worry too much about him having to throw them away either, he'll probably hate that part worse than you. I have to do the same thing whenever my MM gives me a rose, letter etc., as I don't want to get caught right now.
I doubt it will dub you as cheap. Had it only been 3 months in, rather than 3 years, that might be more plausible, but you know where you two are...
You say you want to give him pleasure in any way you can--does he do the same for you? Do you vocalize what it is you want/need?
I don't know about you, but I'm more comfortable giving, rather than getting pleasure. But then I catch myself in a routine, where the joy of giving wears off and I'd much prefer getting, or at least giving/getting equally...this pattern seems to develop in a lot of my Rs. Not sure if that is clear, but that is the thought I've been wrestling with lately.
I'm afraid I have strayed from your question!
Alameda
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