Opportunity for The Talk?

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Registered: 05-29-2010
Opportunity for The Talk?
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Wed, 06-02-2010 - 6:53pm
Okay so here's the update.
At work today, it was really good. He kissed me every time he came into my office (I never initiate), was playful, we chatted, and he said I should try to find a job in the area he lives so that we can be close. Also made a kinda negative remark about having to take his DW on a tropical vacation (which actually surprised me because he hasn't said anything negative about her since he told me he was feeling guilty).
When he said I should get a job near him, I said why would I do that? And he was like ouch, well to be close to me. And I said again seriously, why would I want that? Kinda playful but also serious.
So then the topic of my goodbye lunch came up and he said he was going. I'd purposly not invited him because he is so hot and cold with me that if he was cold that day, it would ruin my lunch.
So I kinda spazzed a little and was like wait who invited you? and again he was like ouch, yeah i'm going, and then i said no seriously, i didn't invite you. and he kinda thought I was joking then realized I was serious and was like oh ok. and then (he was in my office looking up something) he kinda just turned away from me and we each went back to the work we were doing and neither of us said anything else. at one point i kinda playfully said did i offend you? and he made a face and said no, but then didn't say anything else.
then he gave me a kinda cold goodbye and didn't stop by later to say goodbye before i left.
so my question is, do you think i upset him? i kinda feel like a jerk. more importantly, do you think this is the potential opportunity for a bit of a talk?
i want to very lightly and playfully invite him to my lunch tomorrow and say i didn't mean to be a jerk. but then i was thinking of using the opportunity to say that it's cause he's hot and cold with me and i never know what i'm going to get. and that i wanted to have a nice goodbye lunch with everyone!
i don't now if i could broaden that to not knowing what's going to happen after my contract.
thoughts?
after tomorrow, it's only a few more days next week to put up with if it goes terribly.
come on lovelies! I need some thoughts :)


Edited 6/2/2010 6:55 pm ET by lucyford99
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Registered: 03-29-2010
Thu, 06-03-2010 - 7:07am

Yeah, if I put myself in his place, I could see that your actions, to him, might seem like you figure that you're leaving and "it was fun while it lasted" but it's over now.

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