the other woman

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Registered: 09-23-2003
the other woman
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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 11:07pm
how many of you are the other woman?

is your OM with someone, married and you are the other woman?

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Registered: 07-16-2003
Wed, 09-24-2003 - 1:48pm
I'm the other women and single,and he is MM
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 09-24-2003 - 1:48pm
I am the other woman. MM and I are both married. We are having a physical sexual ema. Been going on for 9 mo. His w has seen me at work, but we didn't talk. She doesn't know about us.
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Registered: 09-23-2003
Wed, 09-24-2003 - 2:07pm
okay...here's the kicker....how about you have talked to her on the phone, never met her, but she has confided and whatever.....i work with my MM. He's my boss.. he's the best. we have talked on the phone...she suspects, but has no hard proof. just phone calls....that aren't being made. we have learned to be more careful. we were careless at first. taking trips together...time off at the same time. he made some purchases on a credit card that they have.....she saw all that....but now...well, he's more mine now, than three months ago. we have been together for 7 months....i can't seem to imagine my life without him.

my next question, Are any of you afraid of the consequences if the W find out?

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Registered: 02-12-2002
Wed, 09-24-2003 - 2:15pm
Yep, that's me - "the other woman." Though I prefer the titles "darling" and "girlfriend." ;)
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Registered: 04-24-2003
Wed, 09-24-2003 - 2:21pm
I am the OW. We both are married. I know his W, we went to college together. Not friends or anything like that, but I know who she is and she knows me. She knows that he and I have a past...before her, but she doesn't know about the A.

If she were to find out, I would not be scared in the least. She lives too far away to pull some crazed wife trick. She has no clue who my H is, so I would not be worried about her contacting him at all. I would be worried about MM. I can picture his W hitting him up for major child support, as she is very materalistic. I see her not letting MM see their son much too.
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Registered: 09-17-2003
Wed, 09-24-2003 - 4:48pm
OH MY GOD KITTY KAT!!! I can't believe it!! I've trying so hard to find someone that is in my position!! I'm the OW and my MM tells me that his W is the OW. So your MM did finally leave his wife?? And you know what's so funny Kitty?? Our sons are exactly one day apart!! How long did it take for your MM to leave? Did you and do you still have problems with the W??? My boyfriend's wife is constantly playing games with me and I'm so over it. She knows about everything. I've scanned and emailed letters that he wrote me to her. Plus much more. She is well aware of the situation, but he swears that this won't last long because he just got a closing date for the sale of his house 10/20/03. Please tell me more about you're situation and if there is anyone else out there who's MM finally left his wife for you, please let me know. This really gives me hope. Thank you so much Kitty, I look forward to hearing from you!!
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Registered: 09-23-2003
Wed, 09-24-2003 - 9:54pm
hey...well, he left her on sunday, before he left on a biz trip. He's been calling me everyday telling how much he's very much in love with me and all that. We click so well. We were just going to have a good time...

W and I went to court because I got a TRO on her for harassing me at work...he's my boss....mighty fine. He asked me before we went to drop because she thinks we planned it to take the kids from her....his youngest birthday is 2 days from my son, who is older. my son is older than his oldest by 3 months.

I gave him a key to my place and she managed to get the key. she's been trying to find out where I live, but I just had the locks changed so that I am safe. She doesn't have my address. She's been trying to quit thinking about me and I am sure she wonders if there is anything going on. She is the one that keeps asking him questions and he keeps telling her to drop it. He keeps asking himself why he goes back and puts the kids through that and himself. Things are looking up....I am so glad. it took him three months because of the games she's been playing...threats stupid stuff. she's older than me...a five years I guess....but she used to call me and cry, because she knew that he confided in me....she's known that he didn't want to be with her for 5 months....he's been telling her everyday....now they are going to sell the house and she is going to move closer to where he works....we are getting ready to buy a home together....we plan take our relationship, uh, slow...by not moving in together until our home closes next year. We want to spend the rest of our lives together. It's such a great feeling!!!

I thought that I was the only one.....I've had no one to talk to and my best girlfriend I am sure she is tired of hearing about it. Deep down, he didn't leave her for me, he left for him and his happiness. I am just a bonus. :-)

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Registered: 09-17-2003
Thu, 09-25-2003 - 9:30am
How long were you two together before he decided to leave?? And did he tell you that he planned to leave her before you got together?? And how long have he and the W been married??
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 09-25-2003 - 9:47am
Im married, he's engaged and his fiance is with child (his)...ugh

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Registered: 09-23-2003
Thu, 09-25-2003 - 11:38am
we have only been together for 7 mos. I guess he had planned to before we happened. I feel like somewhat a catalyst in that one. We talked about what the problems were in his marriage. I was surprised that things were that way. I mean, he talked her up when he came to our office. Then one day we sat and talked and he just poured it all out. some of the things he told me that was happening i couldn't believe that any woman would say no. I mean he is a VERY attractive man, young and going places. She has low self esteem. he was always picking her up to make her feel better. He says that there is a HUGE difference between her and I. They have been together for 12 yrs. celebrated an anniversary while we were together. we were both away on a trip, biz of course, together and he asked me if it was okay that he sent her some flowers for their anniversary. Said so that she wouldn't know that something was up.

through all this, i mean, she tried to get my address and wanted so bad to know where i live. She called me, crying telling me that she screwed things up with him..that kind of stuff. I think she's crazy. I can't blame her, but a lot of the stuff that she did was so childish.. I got the preverbial name, "home wrecker" it's so gay. she was rude to me the whole time. called me names, and i never said anything remotely as bad as she did. he always defended me when she was talking crazy. it would disappoint her that he would take my side.

So, I got tired of the stupid phone calls, the harrassing at work. I got a TRO, it was the best 2 weeks. I mean I was sleeping better too. he was still getting the brow beating at home. he only went for the kids, they're good kids. I feel so bad for them.

He called me yesterday, told her that he wasn't coming home when he gets back. Said he would be at the counseling sessions and that was it. said he would take the boys and visit them on the weekends. she told him that his priorities were messed up.

anyhow, I am done babbling. I am afraid that she will end up on my doorstep one day...when he's here and everything that I have that says we are together is here. trying the key that doesn't work, had to get my locks changed recently.

Crazy.....

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