our first argument

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our first argument
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Tue, 08-10-2010 - 3:41pm
We had our first argument on Saturday. I never thought that he would get upset with me over me telling him how I feel. Anyway, AP has been sending goodmorning and goodnight texts to me every day ever since our A began. This texts became very important to me. I love to start and end my day with a little
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Tue, 08-10-2010 - 4:17pm

Hi Findfreedom,


No it was not a mistake to tell him how you felt! I think that's some of our down falls. We stay quiet don't say what bothers us and let it sit there & not vent it out. I think if I did that more maybe I wouldn't be in my A. Had I said what was on my mind and what I felt things would be much clearer and better between H & I.


I know you look forward to his texts and he's been slowing down with them lately

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Tue, 08-10-2010 - 4:35pm
I agree with Rayne.
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Tue, 08-10-2010 - 4:47pm
Hi Rayne. Thank you so much for always being here for us, for all your replies and support. It is true that we usually stay quiet and don't say what bothers us. We do it
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Tue, 08-10-2010 - 4:54pm

Isn't it always easier said then done, I feel you!!! And I agree with you, its better to have told him face to face then via text. I'm learning so much as I go along and to be honest I still don't tell H the one that matters all that I feel and want.


I need to open my mouth. I'm so weak for some things the ones that matter and strong for others.....yes I need an intervention ;)


 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 05-03-2010
Tue, 08-10-2010 - 8:02pm

You should always be able to tell them how you're feeling.

anotherseyes

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Wed, 08-11-2010 - 2:38am

Find Im in agreeance with the others. A's are so hard because we have such limited time, we dont get to work through the bad so we tend to avoid it.


But the problem with that is that we feel untrue to ourselves. I have recently struggled with this too. I think the thing Ive learnt is to say anything like that face-to-face. But also phrase it more carefully- it means so much to me... etc.


Big hugs to you xxx

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Registered: 06-08-2010
Wed, 08-11-2010 - 12:44pm

Thank you all for your support and advice. I honestly don't know what I would do without MAS. All your replies mean so much to me.


Jane, it is kind of scary to tell AP about something that you are not happy about. I mean we've been together for 5 months, but I don't think I know him that well. How can I? We don't go out, we