Our other men's names

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2004
Our other men's names
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Sun, 03-07-2004 - 1:56am

Our other men's names



  • Do we give their names out ladies?
  • Don't the world need to know who they are?
  • If they do the crime shouldn't they do the time?
  • Why not list the jerks names?
  • I think women should be warned of the jerks, don't you?


You will be able to change your vote.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-21-2004
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 2:30am
Somehow I think you've managed to post this "poll" on the wrong board... jmho.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 6:07am
Sorry, I really care about my "MM"...and I would never do anything to hurt him...

I went into our relationship with my eyes wide open, knowing I could be hurt, and it will probably happen...when it does I'll pick up the pieces and go on...and wish him well!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-15-2003
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 7:30am
Are you also prepared to 'out' youself while your outing your MM? Why the vindictivness? You knew he was married, what did you expect form him?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-14-2004
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 9:32am
Yes, warn the world about us. Warn the world that there are men who are unhappy in their M's and seek companionship from another consenting adult. Warn the world that there are men like myself who are leaving their M, but in the meantime have met someone special who they love very deeply. And while you're at it, you might want to warn the world about the MW also. They too have feelings and needs and like MM, are....flawed. Yes, it's true, we're imperfect. So make sure everyone knows who we are. It's going to be a long list though. Your father might be on it. Your brother might be on it. Just be prepared to take back everything you believe about people involved in an affair because everyone is different and you can't pigeonhole them as much as you'd like to. I'm sorry if you've been hurt, but don't try to make a case for all MM as the "bad guys". It won't fly here.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2004
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 12:02pm
I never said all MM were the bad guys. Let me ask you this. You said you fell in love with the OW. How many nights has she sat alone when you were with your W? How many times has she needed you and you were not there because you had to entertain your W relatives? Right now if she was injured or terribly sick, could you go to her? How many times have you known she was home crying her eyes out because she loves you and misses you so much but you have to go home. Love isn't suppose to hurt but we OW do a lot of that. And this is the woman you love????? So why don't you leave your W? Let me guess. It's not the right time. When will that be? After your OW has wasted her life on you, because she believed you loved her? For the ladies reading this, I know a lady that was in an affair for 19 yrs, it was never the right time for him to leave his wife. Well she got her revenge, she met a nice man, broke it off with MM, married the man who really loves her, and now MM is devastated. Serves him right. Don't get me wrong, I love my MM with all my heart, but how long are we suppose to give our hearts to someone when we are now and always will be last on their list? We are just their toys, their thrills. When the going gets tough we find out how much they love us, don't you always run home to W omahamm? How many times have you told your OW you can't see her? Be honest. Admit that you don't intend to make this woman #1 in your life or do you WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-15-2003
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 1:44pm
Honey, you don't love this MM with all your heat al all. You're infatuated with him, you're emotionally dependent on him, and have no self-esteem. Nothing more. You're not at all concerned for him or his best interest, only your own. You're bitter, vengfull and spiteful and for him to hang around, obviously he has even less self-esteem than you do. He's being pu$$y whipped by you, and probably by the wife at home, no wonder the poor SOB can't make a decision. He needs to grow some balls and tell you where to get off.

If you truly loved him, you wouldn't ever dream of hurting him. And sometimes, when we love someone so much, the best thing we can do for them is to let them go. You need to let him go and move on with your life. Do you want to be in this same position a year from now? Two years from now? 10 years from you?

Tell me;

How long have you been involved with this man?

Are you married?

Did you know he was married at the beginning?

How long are you going to wait for him?




Edited 3/7/2004 2:01 pm ET ET by cheshierfire

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 3:54pm
I ain't saying my OM' name to you and even if I did I am going to be saying with added endearments to his name. I don't think you'll be interested anyway..... He isn't the kind of man you just described in your post.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2003
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 5:23pm
I don't see your point. You seem to think all people who are in an affair are somehow going to be checking this board for the list of "most wanted". How do we know that
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 10:13am
Please go away "aristotle"...I've reported your post as a personal attack violation against omahamm. He is one of the few men we trust the opinions of here on our support board. As far as "outing" my MM....well, I knew what I was getting into the moment our A started....and being married myself, I knew the risks! I am not naive! I love my MM with all my heart, and like any relationship, I have times I laugh and times that I cry. But if my A ends with my beloved MM, I will pick up the pieces and move on, however hard that will be. It will only be difficult because I love him with all my heart. Regardless of what the future holds, I am not vindictive enough to "out" him on this board or any other board. I have respect for him and love him dearly.


Edited 3/8/2004 10:15:11 AM ET by noregretsyet
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 10:20am
You must be interested in something, aristotle....or else you won't be attempting to antagonize the posters on this board. It sounds as if you have been burned before, and for that I'm sorry. But, don't BOO HOO for me. I'm quite happy with my situation. And if you don't post on this board again, I'm sure there are quite a few people on this board who won't shed tears over it.....am I right gals and guys?

Take care aristotle and hopefully you will find some happiness.

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