Our other men's names

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Registered: 02-20-2004
Our other men's names
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Sun, 03-07-2004 - 1:56am

Our other men's names



  • Do we give their names out ladies?
  • Don't the world need to know who they are?
  • If they do the crime shouldn't they do the time?
  • Why not list the jerks names?
  • I think women should be warned of the jerks, don't you?


You will be able to change your vote.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-21-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 10:24am

aristotle2002 -- this is a support board for those posters in an affair.

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Registered: 01-14-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 10:28am
Okay, you want answers? Here they are:

She has sat alone just as many nights as I have felt alone because I wasn't with her.

I have always been there when she needed me. She knows she can call me if she ever needs anything.

If she was injured or terribly sick, I absolutely would go to her.

Again, everytime she has cried, I have cried.

Love isn't supposed to hurt? If you didn't love someone, it wouldn't hurt. No, our situation isn't ideal right now, but one day soon it will be better.

I am leaving my W. But not because of her. Not directly anyway. But I do plan to build a relationship with my OW.

We have only been in this relationship for 4 months. Is that short enough for you?

She is not a toy. She is the person I love. I would lay down my life for her. She will be #1 in my life, along with my kids.

Is that good enough for you? Maybe you shouldn't be worried about other peoples' situations. It sounds like you need to address your own.

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Registered: 02-16-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 10:35am
Omaha...I find it terribly distressing that you are always in a position to defend yourself! I know you have a lot of supporters here on the board who love you to pieces and we're always here for you! It must be because you are one of just a few men who post here. People sometimes forget that you have feelings, too. Stay the way you are.
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Registered: 01-14-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 10:40am
It's okay noregrets. I understand that the angry people who come here often have hostilities towards men so they feel like lashing out at me. I'm comfortable with who I am and no ridiculous personal attacks are going to phase me. In fact, this one by "aristotle" was so pathetic I didn't even feel the need to respond. He or she didn't make any points or bring up any issues. So I'm not going anywhere. I know that the regular posters on this board are good an honest people who care about others and offer true advice. I'm not perfect, not by a long shot. But I come here to get, and to offer, support. Anyone else who is here for any other reason isn't worth my time. Thank you for the kind words. :)
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 10:43am
omaha, i second noregrets' sentiments.

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 11:22am

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Registered: 02-20-2004
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 10:14pm
Ok omahamm,

If I offended you I am sorry. I reread what I wrote to you and I may have threw a few darts but I did not do any name calling as some did. I have been hurt bad by my MM and so has many others that post here. Most women like myself who post here are hurt and feel like we need somewhere to vent. When I read your post I felt you were a man and playing with a heart as many on here have been. I thought this board was a place to let go of some of this pent up anger and hurt we have. If you will go through and read, how much happiness do you see and how much hurt do you see? The hurt out weighs the happiness. There is a lot of us who are confused by our OM that we can't see straight. Some that replied acted like children, none of us can say what we are doing or have done is right. It doesn't matter that we love this other person, we can't help but feel shut out and pushed aside at times. I am slowly but surely easing out of my relationship because the bad has become more than the good. If you happen to be a man that puts your lady first then she is a lucky lady to be loved by someone that is genuine and honest with her. omahamm read many of these post and feel our hurt and maybe you can better understand how many of us women feel. I appoligize to you if I took my anger out on you, it wasn't personal. I guess I felt that if you were just playing with her heart it might make you see that this is real pain. The attack some of these people had on me didn't phase m, because I took it as they were just ones to use another also just for kicks. I don't use people's hearts as a stomping ground. Please accept my apology and I do wish you luck in the future, you do seem to be one of very few men that don't just use their lady and a joy toy.

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