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| Mon, 04-05-2004 - 10:04am |
All in all it went ok. The W was better than I expected, insisted on packing a few things to help, and really still wants to try to work things out. I told her I didn't know if that was possible, but that I did know I couldn't do it while I was there; her recent run of trying to "fix" things has led to her smothering me and me running from her, and I was pretty sure that tension wasn't going to improve our chances.
By the time I got stuff together to get by for the night, she'd actually told me that she figured I was right, that I usually was about making hard decisions. She was pretty civil and decent about things, and there really hasn't been anything said that can't be taken back so far. It's kind of tough this morning because we work together and we decided we didn't want to get other people involved in this until we had some time to calm down.
The OW is kind of strange about it. Upbeat, but still very concerned since I didn't move directly into her place. To everyone who suggested I find this in between place, thanks; you probably saved my sanity.
Still, this really sucks.
rain

NRY
Take care,
Red
You are also in my thoughts. Even though it sucks, I think you'll be able to finally BREATHE...
BK
Hang in there. Remember we're thinking of you.
GB2
I'm so glad to hear you made it through moving day. I can only imagine how difficult it must have been. The fact that your W helped you pack I'm sure was a mixed blessing. It is good she is being civil, but that also tends to put doubts in your head too. You start thinking, "Hey, she isn't so bad, maybe I can stay with her". Or you wonder if you imagined all the problems that led you to this point. But don't be fooled. You know that those problems are real and that they do exist. If you decide you want to try to work through things with your W, you will have a long road ahead. I certainly think that is an option, but don't think for a second you can just go back home and everything will be okay.
I do hope things work out with your OW as she does seem like someone you would really be able to build something wonderful with. But even if it doesn't work, don't automatically think everything is over. In a lot of ways, your new life has just begun. Whatever it holds, be true to yourself. If you do that, everything will work out in the long run. I'm here for you man.
I wish you all the best and appreciate all that you have given me and others on this board.
HUGS
MGT