The pain...it's unbearable

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Registered: 10-06-2008
The pain...it's unbearable
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Mon, 12-29-2008 - 9:12pm

I've posted a few times here.

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Registered: 10-24-2008
Wed, 12-31-2008 - 8:51am

Tygerzize, I am shocked at you. Your post to clarity about how support should be given was WAY off of your normal attitude. Please don't get me wrong, because you and me, we are here (pointing my fingers in a V at my eyes) We see eye to eye, and yet you say that Clarity is trying to tell her what to do or whatever words you used just really, really surprised me.

Shucks, you were the ONLY one to jump to my defense when I started a riot over that deadbeat date post. Girl, I was grateful to you for that back up, so I don't want you to take what I am saying the wrong way. It was just kind of out of character for you. I think of you as direct, caring, compassionate and above all REAL. If Clarity had went after her relentlessly then by all means call for back up, because I'm coming too. But I didn't see that. I saw Clarity offering some REALLY good support to her. I don't know if you have another post in particular in mind, but I have always enjoyed both Clarity and your responses.

I don't know Homegirl, maybe it's me, It just seemed out of character for you.

Peace




Edited 12/31/2008 9:03 am ET by justice318
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Wed, 12-31-2008 - 3:01pm

i just don't think that...anyone should tell someone else what to do..we are grown and have to make our own mistakes...that's how we heal, move forward and understand what's happening to us....i wasn't being malicious...withclarity just comes off as trying to be supportive but if you read her posts and responses..there is always a "leave the person, you know this is wrong".....she's right i cant tell her how to support if that's what she wants to do....i am not saying sugarcoat and say "it's gonna be okay, yeah you can continue this and it will be glorious and a piece of cake" nah..but what i try to do is say, i know where you are coming from and yeah it's hard...there are decisions to make..because in this instance, there is a decision to make..she has to follow her heart, mind or soul..whichever she chooses.......


i am real...and realistically i believe that we all gotta stomp through the mud sometimes....and when we're ready to get out and clean ourselves off we will....


"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 01-12-2008
Wed, 12-31-2008 - 3:29pm

To Clarity and Pretty....

I thought this post was particularly encouraging. It brought a tear to my eye because it's so true what Clarity said....easy to walk away when the flame has flickered out....a totally different story when two people truly love each other. Brutal. I can feel Pretty's pain....gut-wrenching, physical pain, huh Pretty?

Clarity, you've certainly "been there" and you've made it out to the other side. I thought your post was full of hope. Take it one day at a time, Pretty. Heck, one breath at a time.
You are one strong woman.

Best wishes.

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Wed, 12-31-2008 - 6:01pm

Tygerzize...You posted into Olive to


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Registered: 11-12-2008
Thu, 01-01-2009 - 3:51am

" Clarity has left the thread"

Someone please help me clear the confusion.Are we supposed to make a public declaration that we are leaving the thread or the board? I never knew that :-( I believe that if we have to leave, we leave without making an issue out of it.

Also would love to add MHO. When people come here on this board and post about ending an affair,instead of the EAS people applauding here about the good they have done,why not just direct the OP to the right board as this board is ,i assume, for not ending support but while in Affair support.

Again,why is it that the EAS people have to be repeatedly reminded that this a MAS and not EAS? and distrupting almost all the threads, nearly everyday with the same issue?

it seems that the MAS people always have to be on guard as to what they post.

Not wanting to offend anyone but this has been an ongoing problem now which makes it very unpleasent to post here.

peace.

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Thu, 01-01-2009 - 12:29pm

Wha?


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Registered: 10-03-2008
Fri, 01-02-2009 - 10:00am

sorry i replied to someone else's post...it might have been a mistake..and no i've never been to EAS board...

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 10-06-2008
Fri, 01-02-2009 - 12:35pm

Hi All,


Happy New Year!!

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Fri, 01-02-2009 - 1:07pm

Hi there PDW -


So glad you posted an update - I have been wondering how you were doing.

lightning in my heart

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Fri, 01-02-2009 - 1:28pm
sorry you are going through all of this...i hope you soon find a peace of mind...i know it's very hard for you..but you will get through it... ((HUGS))

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss