Thanks for letting us know, NRY. Are you going through the same sorta conflicting emotion thing I am?? My mom told me congratulations yesterday. And it was wierd. Obviously it is congrats, because this is what I've been working towards for a year and what I've put my children through hell for. Because it is the right thing. On the other hand, it sux to know we've failed at our marriage. It bites to know that if either of us knew what the hell we were doing, we coulda still saved this thing about 8 years ago. But we didn't, and here we are...celebrating the death of something that has been terminally ill but what was once a beautiful, rare, and precious thing.
Sorry...not trying to rain on your parade. I *am* glad things are progressing well for you.
But I was wondering if what I'm feeling is normal.
HI NRY, I'm so excited for you:):) Congrats! How did he take it? I can't wait for the day that I can post "Papers Served today". Mine is going to flip out since he has no idea what I'm doing. LOL Take care and Dance Naked today! NMR
I'm not as far along as either of you, but I think what you're feeling is very natural Lucky. Of course you're going to grieve the end of a long R and M. Even if things have devolved to the point where you don't like the person, you still feel a sense of failure and probably some regret.
In my case, I now know that my M was a mistake from the beginning. But I still have shared a lot with her and I feel bad about hurting her. I think when we get the papers finalized (we will be doing it together with one attorney), I will feel a combination of relief and regret. Relief because I will finally be able to move forward with my life the way I want to and regret because I recognized the failures in the R so late. But all in all, I will be happy because I know that both of us will be better for this in the long run. And I know it is right.
But don't beat yourself up for having mixed emotions. Just let yourself grieve over the end of the M and then move forward. Things will get better.
This is the first day of the rest of your life filled with love and happiness.
Take care and keep smiling
Red
Sorry...not trying to rain on your parade. I *am* glad things are progressing well for you.
But I was wondering if what I'm feeling is normal.
Lucky
In my case, I now know that my M was a mistake from the beginning. But I still have shared a lot with her and I feel bad about hurting her. I think when we get the papers finalized (we will be doing it together with one attorney), I will feel a combination of relief and regret. Relief because I will finally be able to move forward with my life the way I want to and regret because I recognized the failures in the R so late. But all in all, I will be happy because I know that both of us will be better for this in the long run. And I know it is right.
But don't beat yourself up for having mixed emotions. Just let yourself grieve over the end of the M and then move forward. Things will get better.