Party Last night/ Making the first move.
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Party Last night/ Making the first move.
| Thu, 12-04-2003 - 10:40am |
oh man. i saw MM at a gathering for his office last night. i had no clue that the spouse's of the VIPs would be there. when i got to the dinner, i sat w/ a friend of mine. there were 2 other chairs. he promptly came over, sat his coat on the chair next to me. but then his wife showed up. YUCK! anyway. great dinner, good conversation. to fill you guys in, i used to work for MM. i was talking to his office manager (MM was standing at the bar- constantly watching me- gave me such great chills- knowing that he was watching me) but his office manager made me an offer for a job that I am not sure I can refuse.
I am not sure if he will want me working there again. MM and his W leave on Sat for a week in Ireland. They are separated so I have no idea why they travel together. He has said to me on many occassions we (mm and his w) make great friends but horrible lovers. I e-mailed him and asked him to meet me before he leaves b/c we need to talk about the job offer. I have to tell the Office Manager by next week. should i take the job??? it would be great working w/ him again. our offices would be right next to each other!
I am not sure if he will want me working there again. MM and his W leave on Sat for a week in Ireland. They are separated so I have no idea why they travel together. He has said to me on many occassions we (mm and his w) make great friends but horrible lovers. I e-mailed him and asked him to meet me before he leaves b/c we need to talk about the job offer. I have to tell the Office Manager by next week. should i take the job??? it would be great working w/ him again. our offices would be right next to each other!
making the first move, i may have already said this. sorry for the repitition. a few weeks back. i e-mailed him. i said at the risk of total himiliation, i have a huge crush on you. he called me on my cell, said " baby, i am very flattered. i am twice your age. and you can do better." not quite a no but not quite a yes. the next morning we met for coffee. still flirting non-stop. do you think i should still try again. should i be more honest. i have been crushing on the MM for ever. i want more. and at the moment i don't care if he is MM and I don't care if he is twice my age. i love older men. what should i tell him.
input please! thanks.
Michelle (mic)

My guess is that old habits die hard and convenience is hard to give up and that is why him and his wife are still traveling together and going to parties together. If he's twice your age he's from a generation that is accustom to staying married even when the marriage is dead.
Are you sure you want to make a career move that will put you in an office next to his everyday whether you're involved with him or not? You may want to reconsider this career move...
cl-liberalgirl
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Mic
Love your name!! I am one of the rare women here who made the first move in my A. Your situation sounds somewhat similiar to mine at the time, although we didn't outright flirt (our work situation wouldn't allow for it), but like you, I had a definite 'feeling' as well.
The only advice I can give you is make it clear what you want (including the fact that you have no intention of breaking up your marriage, or his). Since he's had an A before, he might be leery of starting one up again for fear of more trouble at home (I know you said he's separated, but I would still tell him this -- put his mind at ease)....that's what I did! And DID IT WORK!!!
Men are pretty simple (too simple), maybe he didn't quite get it the first time:)
Edited 12/4/2003 10:27:01 PM ET by charlotte1203