No kidding! If you read my post just now, it shows I have to wait for AP to come around to talk to me, after his d-day....even considering we spent intimate hours together Sat night (after his d-day) at his recommendation and my agreement. I can tell he has backed off, not responding to as many of my questions, emails, no texting at all. I miss all the sweet things from before. He told me this morning to have a great day, etc...then said I will talk to you later this week. I take that as a strong clue I need to be patient with him. Patience is not in my vocabulary but Im having to learn it. Its hard. I think non-stop what he is doing, where is his W, are they making up, etc. Ugh! But...I wont contact him until he does me. Until then, Ill just stew. Stupid ass squirlls should be shot! :)
AMEN!!! I want to see him so bad especially because I worried about him but I'm afraid to ask because he's in pain right now so I have to wait...be patient.. and that is the worst. Sometimes I think that I want and think of him more than he does me and it drives me crazy...so I have to be patient while he gets over this surgery...and no offense to any men on this board...but men are such babies when they don't feel well...
thanks for posting about your recovery, I needed to hear that because I was starting to doubt that. I can't wait until he feels better, I know it's crazy but I need him. Our daily fun emails help me make it during the day and when he feels bad its not the same and puts me in a sad mood. Patience...ugh!!!
I thought that might help..I did feel good afterwards but because of where the stitches are (if he had it done like I did with laser, he has 4 sets of stitches on his belly) and because they have to blow your belly with gas, it felt like I had done 5000 sit ups and it hurt to get up.
Thanks and I am so glad that I have this board to vent on and it helps that we can talk to each other about our A's because I can't talke to my friends/family about what I'm feeling when I miss him. I can't wait until he feels better but on the other hand, the jealous side of me, is glad to know that his W isn't have sex with him either for the next 3 weeks, although he says they don't have any sex life anymore..
I'm glad some of these replies mention the no sex after surgery. I had my surgery but it was over 15 yrs ago and I was younger so I recovered alot faster. I was feeling a little nervous because AP wasn't able to communicate with me and thought after our Friday afternoon together he was feeling guilty....there goes those squirrels again!!! But after all these replies, I do feel better and hope that AP will feel better soon
Can you get together without sex? After my OM had a hernia operation, it was one of the only times we got together and didn't have sex - I just wanted to visit with him. After all these years I think there are only 2 times I can think of when we didn't have sex when we got together, and that was one of them!
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No kidding! If you read my post just now, it shows I have to wait for AP to come around to talk to me, after his d-day....even considering we spent intimate hours together Sat night (after his d-day) at his recommendation and my agreement. I can tell he has backed off, not responding to as many of my questions, emails, no texting at all. I miss all the sweet things from before. He told me this morning to have a great day, etc...then said I will talk to you later this week. I take that as a strong clue I need to be patient with him. Patience is not in my vocabulary but Im having to learn it. Its hard. I think non-stop what he is doing, where is his W, are they making up, etc. Ugh! But...I wont contact him until he does me. Until then, Ill just stew. Stupid ass squirlls should be shot! :)
I am struggling with the patience thing too...haven't seen AP in
I thought that might help..I did feel good afterwards but because of where the stitches are (if he had it done like I did with laser, he has 4 sets of stitches on his belly) and because they have to blow your belly with gas, it felt like I had done 5000 sit ups and it hurt to get up.
I have found so much comfort and support here the past few months.
I wouldn't read too much into it.
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