Patient during divorce... urgh!
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| Fri, 05-07-2010 - 10:34pm |
Help with patience... any ideas?
My MM of 3 years is getting D... moving out in "a couple months". It's been three weeks and there has been progress (them talking about moving on, dividing up things) but no PLANS yet for them to move. Part of me wants to just say MOVE OUT! But I know if we're going to be together successfully and peacefully (with her around forever b/c of the kid) that we have to go slow.
I tend to get depressed on Fridays b/c I know I won't see him until Monday. He told me today that he can't take it if I do that... he's already got so much on his plate he needs me to be strong. I understand... so I vent to you. :) I'm trying to be his relief and escape... but it's HARD! I know I've been with him 3 years and you'd think this would be easier but we NEVER talked about being together before and now we're talking about serious stuff from checkbooks and households to fun stuff like naming our kids and it is so hard to wait for my dream life!
#$%^&*()(*&^%$!!!!!!!!!! How can I be patient & supportive yet true to my insecurities?
Thanks!

Stay busy, and vent here when you need to;).
anotherseyes
What I do when I am feeling inpatient is think about the fact that I am sure MM would rather be spending time with me than at his job where he is miserable(we sometimes get together on his lunch hour) or with his W, where he is not happy either.
I know it's easier said that done but you have to force yourself to focus on the future.
That made me laugh!
Don't mean to laugh at your expense but a little laugh can put things in perspective. Hold on tight, come here or use other distractions when you're getting antsy! Go to the gym or get all involved in something you love or have a gab fest with a best friend. Their job is to agree with you and hold your hand LOL. Keep telling yourself that in a year this will all be behind you. :-)
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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