Phone sex?

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Registered: 09-03-2003
Phone sex?
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Thu, 10-30-2003 - 9:07am
This may be more info. than anyone wants to know, but I HAVE to tell someone. I'm just bursting... I'm at work today and MM is coming in later. He called me first thing this morning, after W was gone, and he was lying naked in bed. We started talking about things and he told me he was touching himself. Well, I'm not going to go into graphic details but he did the deed while on the phone with me. We've never slept together so there was something just so darn exciting about that...about the sounds he made, etc. I've never done anything like that, especially at work. There were people all around, so all I could do was listen. Afterward I didn't quite know what to say. I just kept telling him I felt lightheaded and flushed. (I STILL do, almost an hour later!) The interesting thing about it, though, is that I just went to the area of the office where all the people he normally works with are. His boss, his close friend... All these people who know him, and all I could think was, "If these people only knew what I just heard." I guess what we did this morning qualified as phone sex, even if I didn't participate? I just can't get over it. I can't stop THINKING about it. When I see him again, I know it's just going to be overwhelming... But the thing is, he didn't seem that eager to talk about it much. It's almost like, after it was over, he was embarrassed about it. I guess that's normal, but does that mean I'd be better off not mentioning it?

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Registered: 09-03-2003
In reply to: lilah_iv
Thu, 10-30-2003 - 2:13pm
Oh, no problem. Just glad to know I didn't do anything wrong! There are people in our lives who probably would be able to piece things together if they happened to be on here and read enough of my posts. But the odds that one of those people are on here, reading it all, and could figure it out... Well, I guess we all drop little hints here and there that when pieced together could be figured out if someone were diligent enough. For a second there, I thought maybe the fact that I'd given away that MM works in a cubicle and he came in late today was giving too much away. But heck, take the # of men who work in cubicles and came into work late today and the odds of someone who KNOWS that MM came in late being on here... I do get a little paranoid sometimes, though. I knew someone once who could really have benefited from this board but she didn't know about my A and I knew if I directed her here 1) she'd know I knew about this board and wonder why and 2) I'd have to be careful with every little thing I posted from then on.

I kind of like my online identity, though. Lilah. I always thought that was a sexy name!

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Registered: 10-06-2003
In reply to: lilah_iv
Thu, 10-30-2003 - 2:31pm
this is going back a few decades..but isn't lilah that firey redhead in sweet valley high...lol
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: lilah_iv
Thu, 10-30-2003 - 2:57pm
"For a second there, I thought maybe the fact that I'd given away that MM works in a cubicle and he came in late today was giving too much away."

LOL... for some reason this struck me as totally funny. I'm LMAO here! :)

I think it was the entire conversation that did it. (Not that it's funny; just that by the time I finished reading it, I either had to call up MM and have phone sex (not an option at the moment) or else laugh like a crazy woman!)

By the way, regarding your post. I would veer away from over-discussing it (such as asking him how loud he wants you to be). Just go with the flow, do it, tell him how excited it makes you, then move on.

Kari (also not my real name, by the way).

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Registered: 09-03-2003
In reply to: lilah_iv
Thu, 10-30-2003 - 2:58pm
Yeah. That was where I got it from. A long time ago I auditioned to write for Sweet Valley High. In order to do so I had to read stacks of the books to get the right style down. I remember thinking at the time what a pretty name Lilah was and it just stuck with me over all those years. Of course I'm not fiery nor am I a redhead, so it doesn't fit me!!!
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Registered: 09-03-2003
In reply to: lilah_iv
Thu, 10-30-2003 - 3:22pm
Okay, get this. MM is embarrassed about what he did. He acted kind of weird when I saw him. He was friendly but guarded...kept turning the discussion to trivial stuff. I told him how excited it made me, but I just honestly don't know how to handle it. Does he just need time to deal with it? What should I do? HELP! It kind of ruined my feelings about it.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: lilah_iv
Thu, 10-30-2003 - 3:31pm
Don't dwell on it with him! Don't comment on it to him any more, even positively, unless he brings it up. Just move on and act normal. Don't over-think it...
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Registered: 09-12-2003
In reply to: lilah_iv
Thu, 10-30-2003 - 10:47pm
Lilah - he may be a little worried that you think he is a little freaky b/c he took care of things and you were not able to. Some guys (though not many) are paranoid about reaching that level and you not being able to. If you say something - be subtle and vague, like ask him "when are you going to call me again", then wink. You are letting him know that you think it was arousing but if he gets uptight about it, you have an out and innocently ask him "what do you mean? I wasn't talking about that I just wanted to know when we could talk again"---something along those lines.

Phone sex is unbelievable, especially if you have not had contact yet. MM and I did that several times - then thank goodness for the webcam!!!!! A few months later we were able to get together. WOW - better than the fantasies!!!

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