A Piece on the side...
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| Fri, 09-12-2008 - 5:37pm |
Hi all. I've haven't posted here in quite a long time...but have logged on here and there to read you stories, which always helps me- so thank you. Brief recap of my situation is that I have been seeing my AP for 11yrs now...on and off. It's been a very emotional roller-coaster. Started when we were both dating other people. I am now married for 2 years and he is engaged and about to be married in 3 weeks to his long-term GF. I have 1 teen child and he has no children.
8 months ago I ended it with him ..YET AGAIN..b/c emotions got the better of me, and I couldn't deal with his engagement. (Crazy of me b/c I'm M anyway..but it's just how I feel.) Anyway, I saw him for the first time in 8 months this week for an hour and we just talked and kissed in my car briefly. Felt like it always does. We have plans to see each other next week for the night....(2 weeks before his wedding.)
I was talking about all this to my best friend I've grown up with who knows everything for years (but is anti-A's) and she says that what we have cannot be love. That he will only use me b/c I let him. That I am just his "piece of @$$" on the side".
I have a problem with this, and would like your opinions please...men included if there are any here. I mean could it really mean so little between us like she says? Is it always that black and white? We have gone thru so many ups and downs for many years..and we always return to each other. I do not understand why he is getting married but still wants to continue our A? At least when I first got M, I ended things (although I'm not justifying anything.) We have a very deep connection (I think), and our pull to each other is very strong. Would love to be enlightened with your thoughts on the subject please.
Thanks....
~Wishful
| Fri, 09-12-2008 - 8:30pm |
| Fri, 09-12-2008 - 11:11pm |

