Played for a fool ! Want revenge..advice

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Registered: 05-26-2003
Played for a fool ! Want revenge..advice
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Tue, 03-02-2004 - 1:07pm
Well if u read my previous posts u know that the MM was having doubts.. I been sympathetic to his needs.. giving him time.. this A been going on since October.. I thought we were friends as well.. any way I just found out today from a reliable source that the reason for his distance and doubts is that there is another woman in the picture!!!!!! OOOO Im sooooo MAD!!! I dont care that there is another woman, but I refuse to be the fool!!!! All his Im not sure if i can do this and all that crap!!! I really just am the vengeful type and I soooo want to make his life miserable right now and crash his world!!!!! I know its not very adult of me, but still and all i want him to feel like the jerk I fee like right now!!!!! SO ladies what would you all do if this were u ?!?!! let it go , revenge, confrontation?.. I need some objective opinions cause Im on the verge of calling the wife right now!!!.. JAM

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 9:52pm
Good advise, Lucky. And hon -- need to ask yourself who will get hurt more. Him or his W (who is, more or less, in the same position as you). If the story is true, the guy sounds like a drive-by heart breaker. Better to walk away with the shreds of your dignity wrapped around you. Make him wonder what happened.
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Registered: 05-26-2003
Fri, 03-05-2004 - 9:12am
Thanks for all the advice... I never did anything except asked for a reason I just got one bunch of BS and am now done.. Of couse i need to write him back and tell him about the other woman.. then it will be toally done.. thanks again... JAM
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Fri, 03-05-2004 - 9:19am
hey mess, take care of yourself sweetie and stay in touch with us!!

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Registered: 03-04-2004
Fri, 03-05-2004 - 7:46pm


Well, lets just pretened like you know that there is another woman for sure.... To get him really heated would be to actully meet this woman and become good friends with her! Pretending that you had no idea that the woman you just met and your man were even seeing each other! That way you can be close to the enemy AND get back and your guy. Once you gain the womans trust, there's no telling how much damage you could do!! Just always remember to play it safe-- (its the guy we want hurting here!)
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Registered: 02-20-2004
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 1:27am
Yeah, you go girl. I did it! My OM tried the playing me for a fool too, but he found out I won't take his crap laying down. Oh he wanted to be a smartbutt and be hateful to me so I showed him hateful!! First time last August, I wrote the W a 4 page letter with details, and made a CD of his voice mails telling me how much he loved me and had it delivered to her. Hahahaha!!!! He stayed away from me for 3 weeks and back to me he came. Well now 4 weeks ago Mr Darling Cheater acted like a jerk again, I forewarned him, he said do it, so I did! hahahaha....What he didn't know was I had her Cell#, placed the call, gave details, gave her time to get where he was, called again. Talk about being between a rock and hard place but he had both of his women on the phone with each other in his presents! hashahahaha....He stayed away from me 1 week that time, he's back loves me as always....Bless his little heart....I love him...but he knows don't piss me off by being a jerk because he knows now I invented the word Bitch....hehehehe......so do GF, get you some revenge, trust me, it feels great...if he loves you then he'll come back, I have proof, mine does....good luck and happy revenging!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Registered: 02-20-2004
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 1:48am
Well we can create a post here to submit the jerks names...........ready set lets do it!!!!!!
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Registered: 05-26-2003
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 8:49am
I got my revenge and I dont want him back.. hes a player a coward and a dog! which is what i said in my email to him .. im sure hes totally blown away .. when he wrote me told me he just couldnt handle an affair right now.. work was suffering .. his home life was suffering.. it wasnt a good time for him.. bunch of BS.. so knowing what i knew.. its true.. Its for sure there was another woman.. I wrote and told him that he should have just come clean with me.. that I know about the woman that u cant wiat to see that lives an hr and a half away and that she just broke it off from a former lover and that u were planning on meeting her this week.. and so on.. so i told him im sure her being further away from u then me wont be a distraction like i was.. and that if i found out this info about him and his home phone and address.. that it wouldnt be hard for his wife either.. so watch when u play with fire...... so im sure hes crapping in his pants..and wondering if its his new woman that may have leaked this info to me :).. any way im sure there wont be any comment from him on this.. hes a coward.. but i feel 100% better!!! thanks for listening.. maybe ill be back .. not sure if this rollercoaster is for me or not......... jam
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Registered: 02-20-2004
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 12:31pm
Oh so I'm a sick bitch and my MM is pathetic. Well aren't we all! I guess in your eyes we are suppose to be last on their list, be at their beck and call. Be their sex toys. Love them, give them our hearts, sit home and cry while he enjoys both sides of his life. Take their abuse, and let it all be OK. Yeah right!!! I don't want to hear all this BS we knew they were married, so did they when they tell us how much they love us. I may be a sick bitch but I'm one of many according to this poll. I love my MM with all my heart but he is not going to beat my heart in the ground not after he has cried to me and tells me he loves me more than life. He was very ugly to me the day this happened, so if what I did hurt him good, if it hurt his W better, she has done things that would make all of you sick. She isn't woman enough to face me, she sends her adult children, then my adult kids get involved and her has to tuck tail and run. His W is pathetic, she knows about us, she knows he won't give me up, but I have told him to choose and do it soon because I am through with all this "I love you BS" if he don't mean it. Let me ask you this mefreenow. I am including myself in this too, aren't you pathetic too, arn't you messing with another womans man? Whats wrong with us to have so little self esteem that we are second in the one we love lives? As the old saying goes...hurt me once shame on you, hurt me twice shame on me, well shame on me. Am I sorry I called her or sent the letter and CD, no I am not, just shows him he is not invinsible and can't have the world by the tail without some fault. He can leave me any time he gets ready, but he is the one who was playing with my heart and thought he could just be and do anything he wanted. I proved to him to take a hike or I'm going to be #1. She told me that day if I wanted him to come get him, I told her I didn't wish her any bad luck but she could keep him. So you go ahead mefreenow, go on being your OM's little toy and be used. I am not one that will be just my MM's toy. My exact words to him when he came back was love me or leave me alone. So think what you want, I don't care!
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sun, 03-07-2004 - 4:06pm
NO your not one of many very few of the women posting here would do what you did.

If what you did is called love then your hate must be truly interesting to behold.

If MM is such a pain then Dump him, it's your fault if you stay in such a bad situation no one is forcing you to stay, but you are trying to force him to stay with you(can you say fatel attraction).

The three of you sound like you have a wonderfull dynamic going, do yourself a favor and exit stage left.

>>>"""Let me ask you this mefreenow. I am including myself in this too, aren't you pathetic too, arn't you messing with another womans man? Whats wrong with us to have so little self esteem that we are second in the one we love lives? As the old saying goes...hurt me once shame on you, hurt me twice shame on me, well shame on me. ">>>

This part actualy made sense, I put up with some SH*T, but dumped his lieing *SS, that was the first step to dealing with the SELF ESTEEM problem.

The number one rule in a EMA is if the pain out weights what your getting from it then it's time to leave, it sounds like it's time to leave when your hurting so badly you start doing crazy stuff.

adios

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