Please be honest should I be the one

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Please be honest should I be the one
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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 1:57pm

Hi, all


Due to our living arrangement AP and I

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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 2:07pm

First off, keep AP out of your marital home. Having him over there is just a disaster waiting to happen. I didn't allow AP/BF anywhere near my home until things were ending with my H. You're asking for trouble doing that.

As for the hotel room costs - AP/BF and I used to split the costs. We get paid on opposite weeks - so one week he would pay and the next week I would pay. We ALWAYS paid in cash - no debit/credit cards which can be tracked later. I felt that since we were both going to the room to be together, it was only fair for us to share the costs of the hotel room. If you think you can get the money out an account without your H finding out - I think it would be fair for you to help out with that cost.

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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 7:18pm

Good call about not letting him come to your house!

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Wed, 05-05-2010 - 5:50am
Since most decided it was ok to share the hotel bill, here is my point.
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Registered: 04-06-2010
Wed, 05-05-2010 - 8:21am

Finally someone talking my language..


He know that I am currently unemployed been unemployed for over a year. (I am currently

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Wed, 05-05-2010 - 8:41am
A "kept" mistress! LOL! Are there any more of those? Imagine the life... he sets you up in your own place, pays all your bills and you have nothing to do but keep in good shape and make sure you're always pretty for him! Oh my, that really did exist at one time didn't it? I honestly don't think that's an option anymore, I would hope anyway.

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Wed, 05-05-2010 - 8:44am
Stick to your guns. Although my OM always pays for lunch for us, there were times that he was unemployed and I paid for lunch. Even then, he always paid when he could, but if things were tight I paid. Not very often over the years, but if you're unemployed and money is tight, and that's not the case with him, I would stay with your decision. Maybe he's trying to force you to let him come over your house? Don't do that, it is so dangerous!

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Registered: 04-06-2010
Wed, 05-05-2010 - 9:53am

Just imaging him coming over to my home and getting caught give me chills up my spine. No, way in __ would I allowed this. He is currently running his own business and I cannot believe he does not have any money.

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Registered: 07-24-2009
Wed, 05-05-2010 - 12:44pm

I think you just hit on the right response - tell him you will see him when you are employed and can split the cost.

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Registered: 10-21-2009
Wed, 05-05-2010 - 2:47pm
Hey, if he can't afford the hotel, then he shouldn't be seeing you. Really simple.
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Wed, 05-05-2010 - 3:12pm
I text him this morning and told him the next time we see each other, I should be employed so that we can

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