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| Fri, 07-11-2003 - 1:23pm |
Background...we've been together for one year. We are hopelessly in love. We are talking about being together. He says all the right things, I'm his true love..can't live without me...etc.
He has two kids and I am single. We don't get much time together, maybe once a week for a few hours, but we talk on the phone several times a day. I have been pretty happy up until last night.
Last night, after our 'date' we were driving home and his wife happened to drive past us. She immediately called his phone and asked him where he was headed. He lied and said he was going to his parent's home because it was in that direction. She decided she would turn around and join him at his parent's house for a visit! Ok...he panicked!! We were on a road where he couldn't turn off to take me to my car so he quickly pulled over and told me to get in the TRUNK!! I'm not kidding! I said 'no way' and he said 'fine, just start running threw the woods and I will try to pick you up later!' Excuse me!? I was NOT going to run threw the woods because there are raccoons and creatures there and I also had on my nice new heels. Besides, what if he couldn't come back and get me right away? He was SO nervous! He begged me to get in the trunk and he kept looking towards where his wife would be coming from. It was kinda dark out and she had to go quite aways to make a turn, but still he was freaking! SO...after much whining on my part, I GOT IN THE TRUNK!! I asked him to at least leave the lid up a little, but he said it would be TOO RISKY!
He drove off, with me, yes in the trunk. Did I mention that I'm a little claustrophopic?? I didn't have much room between me, the baby stroller and the gas can. It was horrible. He started driving really fast so he could find a place to 'leave me' without HER seeing. He ended up dumping me at a Pizza Hut after at least 10 minutes in the trunk. He told me to 'run' from the car before wifey showed up and to try to find a ride home.
Ok, I talked to him this morning and told him it was beyond humiliating. I asked him if he would have put wifey in the trunk and he said 'if I had to, to save her, probably yes'. What kind of answer is that? I feel SO used right now. Did he do the right thing for the circumstances? He thinks so. I have nobody else to ask, so please help.
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You said that you guys are thinking about being together, that has to show you that he probably isn't anything close to ready to leave his wife. What else did you talk about this morning? Does he feel horrible?? Where do you guys stand right now?
It sounds as if your relationship is as F**Ked up as mine is with my MM. I'm sorry but I think that I would have drawn the line at getting in the trunk and him dropping you off somewhere and telling you to find a ride home. I don't care what his excuse is/was. I know that you were almost caught, but still....he should have had the nerve to handle this situation a little better than this! He could have lied and said that you were having car trouble and was taking you to a gas station, telephone, anything but putting you in the trunk.
You know I hate to say it because it will be the pot calling the kettle black, but I think that you need to get away from this guy. (I say that because my MM is playing the worst kind of head games with me right now. As a matter of fact, he just left my office about 30 minutes ago.) I don't think that I could look at him the same way as before. This is someone that you love that did this to you. Sit back and think this situation through and I think that you can come to your own realistic opinion about this.
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I am sorry to hear about your evening...sounds like hell to me!
Personally I would have just said let me out then I would have flagged his wife down and ask for a ride!!!!! Also if he could drive 10 minutes to the Pizza Hut with you in the truck and not see his wife...then why could you have not sat in the car and not in the trunk?
OK I am sorry.....this is JMO....Sounds like to me that he is VERY afraid of being caught...then why is he doing this?
Welcome to the board...I am sorry for my sassiness....just blows me away that a guy would do that! Red
He apologized to me this morning, but I don't think he understands that it was SOOO degrading for me! You must be a better person than me, because if you could climb in that trunk and not be upset...wow! We didn't get to talk about many things because I was still ranting and raving about the experience. Maybe it's just me, but I really think it wasn't right!
I guess we are going to be ok. I just need to let him know that I have dignity, and I won't be treated like that again. I could have just 'hidden' down in the back seat until he dropped me off. Oh well...I will try to move on.
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I don't mind your sassiness, I also can get pretty 'sassy' myself!!
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Adara
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