Please help!!!

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Registered: 08-22-2008
Please help!!!
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Fri, 08-22-2008 - 9:30am

Okay so here is the problem. I have been having an emotional affair for about 4 months now. It is with a co-worker. We started out as very good friends, then we started texting each other pics and talking alot through texts.

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Registered: 11-27-2007
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 10:05am
I am so very sorry - it sounds like you feel you've lost a friend. It must be so hard for you.. But, I don't think you have a choice. I think you have to walk away because it sounds like he already has. You say you want to see him - so it sounds like you want closure? Sure, I think that would be the decent thing, but there's a chance he can't handle it. So you may have to move on only with the closure of knowing its over. It sucks honey, it really does. But you can't force him to text or call or see you, and you can only go on for so long wishing and hoping that he would. Give yourself a day
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Registered: 08-08-2008
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 10:35am

To be honest, it sounds like he is trying to stay true to his wife and marriage. I'm wondering if you've read the book, "He's just not that into you". One of the rules is that he's just not that into you if he's married to someone else. Even if he is not happy in his marriage, it sounds like he is not ready to walk away at this point.


Another point in the book is that if a man is not calling you, it's because he's not thinking about you. I know that's a hard pill to swallow, but I think once all women realize how true it is, we will be much better off. He's not initiating contact and he's not replying to your texts. I think that's a pretty good indication of his feelings. Please walk away. You deserve someone who will love you and ONLY you. Don't sell yourself short.