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Please help with advice
| Mon, 12-29-2008 - 5:01pm |
Not sure if I should call him AP or XAP since we haven't talked in 3 weeks. It all started in early November and we spent the week together while both away at a conference. We've known each other for over a year through work and the attraction was immediate for both. The first night he literally begged to stay all night. I told him I was angry at myself for becoming involved with a MM because I had just gotten out of an A with a MM. He said that we could be together and he could leave his W and we would be happy together...just broke. Wanted to leave hickies on me so that I would get caught and he could come and rescue me.

Your story is "Classic".
Classic case of the "thrill of the chase" but once conquered, doesn't hold much appeal to him anymore.
Classic case of a player MM who'll promise you the moon and the sun but delivers nothing.
Classic case of a MM in an A who'll play the "push" and "pull" game. Push you away when he has his fill, pull you in when the urge is back.
Classic case of him feeding you crumbs to keep you hanging.
Classic case of using all the excuses in the book for his reason as to why he couldn't get a D.
I know there are more "classic' stuff there I could add but don't have the time right now. But you're also a classic case of a woman settling for way less by getting involved with MM. Unless you do the hard work in sorting out why. You'll never be able get away from this type of turmoil in your life.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson