Please help me interpret this

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Registered: 05-08-2009
Please help me interpret this
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Sun, 05-10-2009 - 1:37am

Hi, I am posting again in hopes of getting some more insight on my situation. As you all know, there are very few if any people someone in an A or about to start an A can talk to about it.

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Sun, 05-10-2009 - 11:19am

I don't think any of us can really tell you for sure what he is feeling. Like you've said yourself, he's sending mixed signals. My advice is to wait and see what happens. If he's really interested, he might wait until his job wouldn't be in danger from contacting you (and he's not your lawyer anymore). But if he's interested, he will contact you somehow, sooner or later, he obviously has all the ways to reach you.

My guess, from reading what you say, is that he's interested but a little ambiguous about moving forward. Could be the worry about his job, could be that he's just not sure he wants to take that step. If you push him, he will always be able to comfort himself with the fact that you came on to him and he couldn't resist, and should there be a D-day, he would feel justified in blaming you.

So I think he's interested, but I think you should wait a bit and see what happens.

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Sun, 05-10-2009 - 1:25pm

'I am hoping to get as many opinions as possible"

Well, obviously it's only my opinion but.....I think he's just being polite at this point. I know that's not what you want to hear.

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Sun, 05-10-2009 - 8:12pm
In many states, it is an ethical violation to sleep with your client.

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Registered: 05-08-2009
Sun, 05-10-2009 - 9:18pm

Hi, You are probably and in fact you are definitely correct about it being an ethical violation to sleep with a client.

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Mon, 05-11-2009 - 4:40pm
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Mon, 05-11-2009 - 5:21pm

Hi, My husband and I didn't hire him, I hired him. I am

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Registered: 08-05-2007
Mon, 05-11-2009 - 7:25pm

Don't you think calling lawyers sneaky and manipulative is a little out of line?


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Mon, 05-11-2009 - 9:13pm

Thank you colorunner.

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Mon, 05-11-2009 - 9:48pm

I get the feeling that, if...if he was testing the affair waters or just becoming a little too flirtatious, your outburst had him revert back to professional attorney mode.


I think he accepted your apology, which was nice, but he will keep himself in check...nice and lighthearted...without being rude to his client.


I'll bet he runs into this type of thing alot (maybe like therapists do, kwim?).


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Registered: 05-14-2006
Mon, 05-11-2009 - 9:49pm

Sweetie, (Hugs)


You have asked this same question in many ways. I really don't think any of us, not knowing him, can answer it. You are driving yourself crazy!


Here's what I would suggest: Either let it go or straight out ask him to go do something IRL. Asking someone for coffee is not that scary of an undertaking. It is something friends would do.


IMHO, if a guy wants to have sex, he WILL make it known. You don't usually have to chase him down. There are LOTS of guys who would have a FWB with you I am sure. You don't need to waste your time on this one. FWIW I sure hope that there are SOME guys who can be married for 30 years and not be bored! I'd cry if I thought otherwise.

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