Please help me interpret this

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2009
Please help me interpret this
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Sun, 05-10-2009 - 1:37am

Hi, I am posting again in hopes of getting some more insight on my situation. As you all know, there are very few if any people someone in an A or about to start an A can talk to about it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2009
Tue, 05-12-2009 - 2:51am
I agree with you!
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2008
Tue, 05-12-2009 - 10:42am
Really cant say whats going on in his mind but i would say that if he is interested,he will make a move,you wont have to initiate.I am not saying you cant ( I myself initiate many times).My advice is to wait till your legal process is complete.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2009
Tue, 05-12-2009 - 11:16am

because its my OPINION..that I am completely entitled to have........that is why its okay.


Have a nice day!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-19-2008
Tue, 05-12-2009 - 11:54am

When men are interested, they go for it, and if things are bad at home, they usually froth over about how sexless and empty their marriages are. (And even when they're not). That he can go a year and a half without speaking to you and not whine about how terrible his wife is after all the hints you've handed out, tells me he's probably pretty satisfied with his life. As others have mentioned, people in professions that see other people when their lives are in turmoil get misdirected affection all the time. Hate to say it, but he can probably give you a list a mile long of others that have come before you. .....Which is probably why he's doing nothing. He's probably being partly polite and partly enjoying the attention you are giving him. Most men would be flattered and reciprocate a little.


I also agree with Clarity. I think he decided to clean his behavior up after your meltdown. Guys that want more don't respond with "That's great" when a woman tells them they want to pursue a friendship. They start fishing around to see how soon they can get it physical. Why not just woman-up and be direct? For someone who "needs" him to make the first move, you sure are manipulating things to make that happen. What's the difference?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2009
Tue, 05-12-2009 - 5:43pm

And you

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2009
Tue, 05-12-2009 - 9:17pm
I think most people on this board have tried to make this very clear for you. THE MAN IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU. If he were interested, he would certainly let you know. He works for you and he is trying to be nice and respectful toward you. Leave him alone and let him live his life. Stop throwing yourself at him and pining over every little thing that he says. Don't continue to make an idiot out of yourself in front of this man.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-05-2007
Tue, 05-12-2009 - 10:17pm
It wasn't posted as an opinion.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2009
Wed, 05-13-2009 - 3:20am

I never called anyone names.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2009
Wed, 05-13-2009 - 3:21am
??? what wasnt?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2009
Wed, 05-13-2009 - 7:19am

I got the insults and finger pointing and nastiness from several of the people in this community.