Please help me interpret this

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Registered: 05-08-2009
Please help me interpret this
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Sun, 05-10-2009 - 1:37am

Hi, I am posting again in hopes of getting some more insight on my situation. As you all know, there are very few if any people someone in an A or about to start an A can talk to about it.

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Registered: 05-05-2009
Wed, 05-13-2009 - 7:41am

<<>I am hurt as I said by the delivery of the comments made about my situation, not about having people's honest thoughts based on the information provided combined with the experience in these situations that some of you have or have had>>


I was being VERY honest and it was in fact based on the facts you provided. My situation was alot different. He is flirting with you because you are an unhappy 40 year old married women....I dont know what the case was but he was taking advantage.....he is looking to do future work with......so he is flirting.


You are reading way too much into it....move on already!!

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Registered: 01-12-2008
Wed, 05-13-2009 - 7:50am

"It isn't just about the lack of sex that is hurtful, it's the lack of physical affection, the lack of emotional connection. Not that my husband and I fight or argue, we don't. We are just kind of...here. Don't we all have a need to feel wanted, desired, and all of those kinds of things...to me it's one of the most basic human needs. "

I think a lot of women, and MEN, can identify with your feelings. (Go read on the Mixed Libido message board!)

Let me share something with you, Mom. I got involved with someone I was previously engaged to. We are not kids. We are WELL into that dreaded "middle age" time frame. Before I got involved with him, my DH and I were "fine". I THOUGHT we were happy. I guess it was more contentment which sure wasn't a bad thing. I didn't set out to have an affair or reconnect with MM....we met for freakin lunch. Big mistake.

All I know now is that there is such a chasm between my DH and I. I struggle with trying to figure out whether it was always this way...emotionally void....or it has become that because of being with MM (over five years now). I know over the years (30!!) when I would feel my DH drifting away emotionally/sexually...I would haul him back in! I know NOW that I kept the marriage together emotionally, he did all the logistical stuff.

Now, Mom, I have no desire to "haul him back in". And it's sad. I'm in limbo and don't see a way out.

What the heck and I getting at?????
Be careful what you ask for. You just may get it.
If not with this attorney, with someone else.
And then....if you think you are "just there" with you husband NOW...wait.

If I could take back that afternoon lunch with my MM so long ago...would I? Some days 'yes', some days 'no way'.

If there's ANY way you can try again with your husband...and I know how you feel, I really do....try again.
Adding another man to the mix can only complicate things.

Please take care.

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Registered: 05-04-2009
Wed, 05-13-2009 - 8:20am
Let it go...
playing the fool..is never easy
playing the fool..is never easy

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