Please help, past affair is haunting me.
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Please help, past affair is haunting me.
| Tue, 08-26-2003 - 12:31pm |
I am a mother of three grown children have been married for 20 years and happily for most of it. The first three was happy but durring the forth and fifth we had a big falling out. During that time I made a big mistake and had an affair with another man. He had been a friend of the family for years. The man I had an affair with dissappered after that. After that was over my husband and I reconciled and have been happy ever since. The problem is that the man has reciently reappeared and seems interested in continuing the relationship with me. I am not sure if I want to do this, as a matter of fact I am sure that I don't. My fear is that my husband will find out about this past which I have never told him about. Should I confess or just hope that all goes well. I am confused and hope someone can give me some advise.
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| Tue, 08-26-2003 - 12:40pm |
OH MY GOD, DO ***NOT*** EVER ADMIT TO THE AFFAIR. Have you ever read Dear Abby? In almost every instance of an affair, if you know it will never happen again, telling your husband about it will only cause him to be devestated, you to be miserable, him possibly rleaving the marriage..ETC!!! Do not tell anyone of this unless you are going to leave your marriage. Otherwise it will cost your marriage. Imagine if you thought everything was fine and your husband admitted to an affair...you would go nuts. DO NOT TELL HIM. Trust me. What he doesn't know, what will NEVER happen again, CAN NOT HURT HIM. Please do not tell... please... I've seeen what it can do... C....
