Pls indulge me one last time.....???

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Registered: 02-22-2004
Pls indulge me one last time.....???
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Thu, 05-27-2004 - 8:34pm
I sent MM email yesterday ( we were emailing all day and I have a 'story' for him read other posts to see what I am talkig about).... anyhow- my last email I sent was at 2:00pm yesterday and I have heard nothing back. He seemed fine to see me so I am puzzled by this.

So, do I

1. Assume he will meet me and show up?

2. Assume he will not meet me (blowing me off) since he did not respond yet?

I know some will say, contact him and just find out for surf- but I don't want to. Insecure I guess....

TELL ME YOUR GUT ON THIS GUYS AND DOLLS.

Thx.

V.

PS: Here is a quote that I read on the "understanding the opposite sex" board. What do you all think???

"Men fall in love in the spaces" is a quote that is pretty much true about the way men's minds work."

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Registered: 06-12-2003
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 9:24pm
I know how easy it is to assume the worst. Surely he is ok and just got busy...I have sent e-mails to my "friend" and not heard back right away and immediately stressed thinking, "I went too far" "He is not talking to me anymore" etc. And then he will reply or send a new mail and I will know that everything is fine. He tells me I worry too much. LOL!

Don't know if this helps...but hang in there!!

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Registered: 04-29-2004
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 7:30am
I agree - do not stress yourself out. Think about other things and do not go and meet him if he does not respond. If he shows up and you are not there, he will learn that it is only decent to respond to emails. If you show up and he is not there, you will build yourself up for something, be disappointed, and hurt. Who needs that?
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 8:23am
I agree with the others. Don't go to meet him unless he confirms it with you today. I had a real bad disappointment once when I went to meet my MM at our hotel and waited in the parking lot for an hour. I drove home in tears. Then he later said he had an important meeting with his lawyer and had sent me an email that he couldn't make it. But I was on strike at the time and couldn't check my email so didn't know. Still, it was a major disappointment. After that, I would never go to our place unless he confirmed that morning that he was coming. Take care,

Dusty
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Registered: 02-22-2004
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 8:59am
Do I wait for him to confirm or do I email for this?
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Registered: 05-19-2004
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 9:01am
V-

Dear.... My thoughts are as they were yesterday honey! One will always believe whatever one repeats to one's self. What one keeps telling ourselves over and over in our heads has this awesome power to overcome any negative power. It usually determines the behavior that defines who we are. Although, every moring you and I have a "choice" as to the direction this voice within will take us. Keep positive thoughts about yourself and keep repeating them until they affirmed and you feel them. Really feel them and feel good about yourself.

It's as easy to affirm our self-worth with positive messages as it is to tear ourselves down with negative ones. And yet, many times we fall so easily into negative patterns of thought. Like you keep doing with over analizing the not answered calls, emails.....

Keep teling yourself over and over what you already know V- You are a full of love, and able to give someone "deserving of love" that love in return! Don't go and just wait for him to show for lunch unless you've talked to him to confirm. It would be just awful if he didn't show.

Good luck- Warm wishes,

Jen


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Fri, 05-28-2004 - 9:02am
V

If it is really bugging you and you do not want to just not show up for fear he won't.. then confirm it whatever way you want to. You have a right to know if he is planning on coming or not and even if he got your email.

good luck

dd

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 9:04am
I used to just send a "hello" IM or email in the morning and see if he responded. Then he would usually tell me right away if he could make it that day or not. And there were plenty of days that he had to change our plans, but at least although disappointed, I didn't waste my time going somewhere to wait for him. If you don't hear from him soon, I would email him and try to find out. If he can't at least answer you, I would NOT go.

Dusty
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Registered: 02-22-2004
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 9:09am
OK all.

If I do not hear from him - I will not go. It will kill me, but make me stronger in the end. (right?)

What kills me is that he seemed excited to see me and now this NC.... even a friend would confirm one way or the other.

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 9:13am
Hey, BTDT. This week actually, he calls me at home Monday for a very hot phone call. Then suggests we get together Tuesday. So I get dressed up in a sexy outfit, bring the toys etc. Then never hear from him!! And didn't hear from him all week!! What the F!!

Anyways, I'm almost done with him in my heart of heart, I know its very near to the end for me.

Dusty
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Registered: 05-19-2004
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 9:13am
V-

Not all men think like we do... "It only takes 2 minutes to pick the phone up and call!", or shoot out a quick email.

Hang in there!

jen

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