This is a poll to go along with my Op...

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Registered: 05-16-2004
This is a poll to go along with my Op...
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Mon, 05-31-2004 - 9:53am
This is a poll to go along with my Open Marriage question.

I think I should have multiple partners but my spouse should be monogamous.

I think I sould be monogamous but my spouse have multiple partners.

I think both myself and my spouse should be able to have multiple partners.

I think neither myself or spouse should have multiple partners.

You will be able to change your vote.


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Registered: 05-16-2004
Mon, 05-31-2004 - 9:15pm
PLEASE VOTE!!!!! There have been 140 people view this post and 14 vote. I know you all have an opinion on this subject, please express it by voting.
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Registered: 06-29-2003
Mon, 05-31-2004 - 10:00pm
Well "pardner" LOL (I think you mean partner), if your talking multiple as being two or more, then I guess I'd have to concede that what is good for the goose should be good for the gander. When I hear the term multiple however, it conjures up the image of many and that is not something that would interest me at all. Two men are simply one too many on my plate, as it is. As hypocritical as this sounds, I have always been a one guy girl. I struggle everyday with this situation that I'm in and sometimes the guilt eats me alive.

BTW, I tried voting, but it brought me to this screen instead (maybe I'm doing something wrong). Anyway, just offering you my opinion. Have a good night.

Virgogirl

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Mon, 05-31-2004 - 10:06pm
Thanks ivirgogirl, you are right partner (2 or more). I will make the change. You should be able to click on vote and it should bring up the screen to do so.
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Registered: 08-31-2003
Mon, 05-31-2004 - 10:08pm
Virgo, do you have be soo virgo here with the "pardnerr" thing?? Can't you let go of the dictionary once in a while?

txguy, you know my answer anyway. Open marriages, no way....

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Mon, 05-31-2004 - 10:26pm
Thanks Opal.
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Registered: 05-16-2004
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 12:54pm
PLEASE VOTE!!!! I would like to have at least 50 votes on this poll. There have been a lot of post on this subject. There are some that still love their husband, some who love their wife, some who wish someone would sweep them out of a bad marriage, etc. Please vote, if you can't decide please add a note why.
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Registered: 12-17-2003
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:18pm
Why is it so important for you to get 50 botes?? LOL

It is my belief that anyone having an affair has multiple partners anyway, myself having a H and having been in an A with a MM. Multiple, to me, is more then one. I had two at one time.

You posted on another board about a situation with multiple partners also, is this the type of situation in which you are referring? A threesome? Or are you referring in a long term situation? Don't you consider having an affair as having multiple partners? I know, I know..just asking opinions..wish I could vote!!LOL. You did not give a choice for many OPEN situations..LOL

It can be a confusing question. There could be more answers then what you gave as choices.LOL

My situation certainly doesn't fall into any of your categories!!

Smiles

Melissa

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Registered: 12-17-2003
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:22pm
PS..I missed your thread about Open Marriages or I would have gladly replied..LOL.

I have looked and can not seem to locate the thread. I did like your other question about guilt.

Great questions!!

Smiles

Melissa

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 1:40pm
Txguy,

I abhor the concept of open marriages - sounds so dysfunctional to me to conduct a marriage. That is just my opinion, it doesn't mean I will judge you if you decide to have one.. LOL J/K

People in an A can be considered as an "open marriage" with one partner who doesn't know or in denial.. LOL But that is not the situaton you were referring to in your poll, I suppose. It does get fuzzy after a while, which is why I believe life situations are never black and white.

Juliet


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Registered: 10-14-2003
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 4:53pm
I'm having a somewhat difficult time understanding the concept of open marriages. If you can't, or don't want to be monogamous, why bother with the marriage part? Just **** around and have fun with as many partners as you want - isn't that called dating? Why bother with marriage?

I don't get it. It doesn't make sense.

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