Positive things

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Positive things
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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 1:43am

I remember seeing a post awhile back where the person brought up the subject of positive things that an AP or MM does and the happy feelings they make

 
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Registered: 12-07-2009
In reply to: posh04
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 9:21am
My AP makes me laugh, makes me feel sexy and desirable, and brings passion back into my life. We are long distance, so we are only able to get together physically about every other month. I am having a great time with him--flirty emails, sexy phone calls, revved up anticipation for our next tryst. So far I have not developed feelings of wanting to spend my life with him, although I am very seriously thinking about leaving my M after 27 years, but for many other reasons. Right now, I'm having a blast with AP, but he does not consume my every thought and action. As long as the A stays light and fun, I have no intention of ending it.
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Registered: 12-28-2009
In reply to: posh04
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 12:05pm

I am falling head first, like a brick for AP. What began as a recurrent fun time in bed has grown into a real relationship. I really care about him and really see a future for us. I have been the single OW a few times in the past and never felt this way about any AP before and it is equal parts scary, exciting and fulfilling.


What's different from the other times

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Registered: 11-16-2009
In reply to: posh04
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 10:57am

Thanks for starting this thread.

I too am in a LD affair for about 8 years now although AP and I only get to see each other a couple of times a year.

Lately tho AP has been so sweet and its been wonderful resuming more contact now that the holiday season has ended. Even after 8 yrs he still thinks I'm gorgeous, funny and smart (I feel the same about him). What I love the most is when he sends the random txt with just a quirky teasing or funny remark.

Neither of us intend to leave our M's and I don't think he's my soulmate, but he continues to add bright spots into my day.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
In reply to: posh04
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 12:03pm

This is refreshing !

My MM and I are getting better each day.It is soo real and feels like nothing could be better.Ever since i began to wear ring of his name (btw,he took off his wedding ring and never put it back),i feel like i belong to him and he does such sweet little things to make me feel special.I just love it! To be in love for soo long feels great,just like a dream- never wanting to wake up from it.
I am forever thankful to God for sending me my AP even tho he is a MM.
Could anything be better?Not for me.MM never played around with my head.I can talk to him about everything whenever i need a shoulder.

It saddens to read some posts on the board but it makes me see what i have and take care of it.

Thanks for this post,posh04.

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Registered: 07-12-2008
In reply to: posh04
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 9:07pm

I love talking with my AP.

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In reply to: posh04
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 11:31pm

The last 5 months with my MM have turned me into a complete goofball, even though it's long distance. I see the world differently, more colorful. I walk around smiling all the time. My heart leaps to my chest when hear from him, whether it's a phone call, an IM, email, or SMS. He's made me more confident, a better business woman, and even a better wife to my DH. Songs on the radio are suddenly wrought with meaning. Sex, even with DH, is better. My dreams are lovely. I'm motivated to get in tip top shape so when we *do* see each other I'll look hot. He makes me feel like I can fly, and I haven't felt this way in so long.

This whole thing took us both by surprise. Since we are both married with young children and not unhappy with our spouses, neither of us intended for anything to happen. But it hit us both like a ton of bricks, almost as if we had no control over the love that was blossoming. I've met the love of my life—this is absolutely the guy I was meant for—but....the timing's just wrong. I can't have all of him, he can't have all of me, but we take whatever small pieces we can, and for now that's enough.

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In reply to: posh04
Thu, 01-14-2010 - 3:10am

How is he able to spend the night at your place?

 
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Thu, 01-14-2010 - 3:13am
That is great that even though you dont feel your AP is your soulmate that you both are able to bring some bright spots to your day.
 
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In reply to: posh04
Thu, 01-14-2010 - 3:18am

The positive changes feel great and refreshing, especially since A's sometimes have lots of ups and downs(not that regular R's dont).

 
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Registered: 11-13-2008
In reply to: posh04
Thu, 01-14-2010 - 10:13am
I was more happy when MM gave me one to wear,honestly.It does become somewhat of a challenge sometimes when acquantices ask me about the 'lucky guy' etc. tho. 2 of my friends,very close ones,know about the MM and ring connection.
It does keep unwanted attention seeker guys at bay !