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| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 6:51am |
Hello everyone-
This is the first time I have posted even though I have lurked for a while. I have been in a LDEMA for about nine months. We are both married, do not want to leave spouses right now, and live in different states, but manage to see each other once a month. I do love my H and do not want him to bear the pain knowing about this will cause him. Anyway, H will be out of town for a long weekend in a couple of weeks and the timing is such that MM will be out of his town, too so we can meet. I have already used about every believable work related excuse to go to see him. So for this time, should I just tell my husband that there is something wrong with our home phone and use the cell and pretend I am at home for the weekend or try to come up with some new reason (like visiting a girlfriend) as to why I am leaving town (again)? Ideas?
This is the first time I have posted even though I have lurked for a while. I have been in a LDEMA for about nine months. We are both married, do not want to leave spouses right now, and live in different states, but manage to see each other once a month. I do love my H and do not want him to bear the pain knowing about this will cause him. Anyway, H will be out of town for a long weekend in a couple of weeks and the timing is such that MM will be out of his town, too so we can meet. I have already used about every believable work related excuse to go to see him. So for this time, should I just tell my husband that there is something wrong with our home phone and use the cell and pretend I am at home for the weekend or try to come up with some new reason (like visiting a girlfriend) as to why I am leaving town (again)? Ideas?

My gut is saying to tell him you are going away all weekend. Telling him the phone isn't working seems riskier to me..don't know why! Would it seem strange to be visiting a girlfriend? Fpr me that would be a moe logical excuse. Only you really know what would cause more suspicion. How great to have a weekend that works out to see each other.
Enjoy!
I have found that your alibis need to be more truth than fiction. If you can come up w/ a reason, work or otherwise related, to legitimately be in the same town as him that would be much safer. Good luck!
I hate to sound so selfish but I am an all-about-me kind of girl -
I am either off getting my nails done - shopping - hair - pedicure - waxing - at the mall -the library -
going to the movies - the gym - some crazy cooking class - meeting my girlfriend or sister or SIL for lunch or brunch
God knows I have a million baby showers and wedding showers (that I have to shop for and attend) - candle parties ....to attend within the next couple of weeks now that MM is back home !!!
I hate to throw out my stash of excuses to be out but there's a few
Kikki