Pregnancy Scare - AP
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| Fri, 08-06-2010 - 3:06pm |
Well, for the last 2 weeks, my stomach has felt like in knots, everytime I eat I am full within a couple bites, I can't say I have had nausea but been very achy and my stomach has felt like it's about to explode out to a million pieces. I have 2 young boys so I know what it felt like in the start but I also have 4 friends who have given birth in the last month.
My times with AP are no protection. (I know, I know) I thought I was alone on this until I read the post about protection with AP...but anyways...I have the Mirena in. I swore there was no way to get a positive with that. I have not had sex with H in over 3 mths but sex with AP, 7 times in 3 months....including yesterday when he came back thru my town and it was a wonderful moment (twice this week) and I felt spoiled by getting to see him so soon again.
This morning, the stomach pressure/discomfort was unbearable. My pshyche was all messed up and I was tripping out. I bought a test at lunch and took it. It didn't work - was invalid for some reason - no lines at all. I just bought another and thankfully - it was negative with just 1 line. OMG. So...Ive learned a huge lesson today. I did not tell AP as I know he would FREAK OUT! So far since yesterday afternoon, it has been NC by me. I know I need a break. This scare was emotionally threw the roof....no ones fault of course but mine. I accept that. But the thought of telling H or him finding out kid could've not been his, etc.. that would no doubt be D-DAY IN THE FULLEST.
Im taking a break from AP. His mom is dying of cancer, the disatance between us sucks, todays ordeal and I figure it's good to breath...alone...for a bit. Does anyone know of anyone who has gotten a positive...with someone elses child besides their husband?

There have been various posts of women who've carried AP's child. Gotta search for that I guess.
Before she got her tubes tied, AP and I had a similar scare, though we were using protection, we weren't as diligent.. She did share that scare with me as we were going through it.. at the end, she was not pregnant, just a late period due to stress at the time, etc. But, that experience was the turning point where we cooled things down to more of true friendship, with emotions kept in check, as opposed to a much more openly romantic R. We both know we care deeply for each other, yet, all that stays in the background. And, I truly believe we are much better off for it, day in, day out.
Yes, a D-Day scare or a pregnancy scare will pretty much be the toughest gut check you can get in an A. But, I think, those also serve as the litmus test of what is fantasy and what is reality in a given A.
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Confused - AP and I had a a scare after our first IC (we had been together a few months, had spent hotel nights together, but never IC before that).