Pregnant from Affair

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2003
Pregnant from Affair
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Thu, 04-22-2004 - 4:30pm
Just a message to let you know that having an ema totally changed my life. I used to post on here a lot, but have been busy being pregnant since then. I have been married for 13 years (i am 34) and I have been having an affair with a single 24 year old man for 6 months. I do love him and I ended up getting pregnant from him. I know its his as my husband is unable to have children. My hubby and I had been going to a fertility doctor before the affair and had used donor sperm to try and get pregnant. When I found out I was pregnant, I told my husband that I was going to go to the fertility doctor that week. I used that as a cover because i knew i wanted to keep the baby. Anyway, I know every one is thinking I am dishonest coward, and they are right. I am still married, I do love my husband, I still see OM, I love him too and he knows I am going to stay with hubby and raise this baby with hubby, which he is hurt by, but accepts. He wants me to leave hubby and be with him, but i cant just give up my life that I have now. Anyway, just wanted to tell everyone to please be careful because most affairs end badly with someone getting hurt.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2004
Thu, 04-22-2004 - 4:45pm
hi chris and congrats! i certainly don't envy you with this situation honey. but you are pregnant and now your concern needs to be focused on you and the baby. take care of yourself and try not to stress on the why and hows of who is this baby's father. make your health, mental and physical, your first priority.

but eventually you'll have to deal with your child's paternity issue. OM may not stay in the background when the baby comes. and H deserves to know the truth in the future, if not now.

good luck chris. having a child is a wonderful experience. the cloudy conception circumstance just make it a bit harder.

take care, and best of luck.

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