Pregnant from Affair - Anyone else?

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Registered: 12-05-2003
Pregnant from Affair - Anyone else?
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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 1:07pm
I have not been on this board in about 2 months. Last time I was on here, I was asking about affairs, as I had just started one. I am still involved in the affair and just this morning took a pregnancy test and it came back positive. I am sure it is correct as I am late and have some symptoms. My husband is unable to have children, so there is no getting around the fact that he will know I was with someone else. I feel sick to my stomach. I am at a loss as to what to do. I won't have an abortion, so I'm definitly having it. I love my husband and my om also. On one hand I think I should end the affair, and not tell the om about my pregnancy and just deal with my husband. Part of me wants to tell my om since it is his child (he is single). I have wanted a baby for as long as I can remember, but not like this. Previous to my affair, my husband and I had been having fertility treatments done, but have been unsucessful so far. I was thinking about maybe telling my husband that I want to resume fertility treatments (he doesn't go with me to the doctors appointments anymore) and then pretend the pregnancy resulted from that. That is such a huge lie though. I don't know what to do. Anyone else in a similar situation or have any advice?

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 7:53pm

Hi Chris,


I totally agree with what everyone has had to say... you need to tell DH and OM... and you need to be open and honest with them both.

Sweet
Co-Community Leader My

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Registered: 12-05-2003
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 11:28am
Thank you for your message. I have not done anything yet. I have a doctors appointment on Friday March 12. I know I am definitly pregnant though since 3 home pregnancy tests came back positive and I feel sick to my stomach and am dead tired every day. I told my OM about it and he said that whatever I decided to do was fine with him and then told me that he would love to be with me and raise this baby. He mentioned moving in together. When I mentioned that I wasn't sure what I was going to do yet, I could tell his feelings were hurt that I was even thinking about staying with my husband (if he chose not to leave). I still have not said anything to my H. I am soooo scared to do it, I don't know how I will find the courage. This whole thing is a mess. I can barely function at work. I will keep everyone updated and what happens. Thank you all for your advice, thoughts and prayers. Lord knows I need all the help I can get.
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 1:54pm

hang in there chris.

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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