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Pressure!
| Sun, 10-19-2003 - 6:13pm |
I'm a MW and been seeing OM for a little over a year now. My H and I have small kids together, so I feel bad about leaving. But OM is getting restless, and pressuring me to move out. I've told him that I'm planning on leaving my H, but that it takes time because of the kids. He wants me to get a divorce lawyer tomorrow and move out. This pressure is really turning me off. I'm not quite sure if I want to get a divorce. I love my H, but we are basically best friends. What should I do? Should I break it off with OM, or leave my H?

I am a single woman, who has never been married, and who is involved with a MM. Therefore, I cannot really comment from the experience of being married. However, I don't think you should do anything based on what someone else wants. If you want to divorce your H, this should be your own decision based on the fact you no longer want to be in your marriage, and not because of OM.
I would love for my MM to no longer be married, but not so that he can start a life with me (although that may very well happen eventually). I would like for him to divorce his W because she takes him for granted and treats him like crap. He isn't ready to take that step in his life. He may never be ready. Essentially it is his decision to make. I knew when I got involved with him that he was married and I have no business telling him what to do in regards to his marriage. My relationship with him is seperate from his marriage.
Anyway, best wishes to you so that you can make the best decision for your own wellbeing.
Annika
Brightest Blessings, Annika