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Sat, 06-13-2009 - 10:20am
How many ladies here would accepted money from her AP.
“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”

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In reply to: galcurve
Sat, 06-13-2009 - 12:16pm

I accept small amounts of money from my om. Like when I went to pick up my avon order and thought I had cash on me and didn't, he offered up the few dollars that I needed. I allow him to give my kids change for offering at church. I allowed him to give my dd money for something (I can't remember what) and if I was really, really in a bind and he wanted to help me out and could, I'd let him. But, to me, it's just money, and it flows both ways. I bought him groceries the other day when he didn't have any cash. I've paid his way into events, things like that.

But your ap is an odd ball and I'd hesitate to take any money from him. Your relationship is so dangerously rocky, I'd be concerned. I wouldn't want him supporting me, so that I felt like I owed him anything. I wouldn't want him to pay my mortgage or utilities or anything like that. I would feel like I was obligated to him in some way. It's one thing when the relationship is give and take, and I don't think yours is with him.

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In reply to: galcurve
Sun, 06-14-2009 - 9:47am

Thank you for your honest reply.

“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”

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Registered: 11-13-2008
In reply to: galcurve
Sun, 06-14-2009 - 11:17am
Having read some of your posts,i guess,dont do anymore foolish stuff with this guy.He sounds very unstable in the mind.dont fall for this guy ,just enjoy what he has to offer- a good sex life.he doesnt seem anything else to offer.
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In reply to: galcurve
Mon, 06-15-2009 - 5:09pm

I've never asked AP for money, but I know if I did he would give it to me in a heartbeat. I don't think I would ask unless I were in an absolute bind, but if I were to ever find myself in that position -- yes, I would ask.