Question???

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Registered: 04-27-2004
Question???
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 1:47pm
I just want to know if you are married and having an affair with a another married person, Do you have sex with your spouses also? and if so how do you handle it? or stand it, or the feeling of guilt...

I have been telling my husband that Im just not into sex right now... Hes not buying it!!!

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Registered: 02-22-2004
In reply to: zoezoe2u
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 2:02pm
I am MW. My MM and I have not been intimate; just hugs and kissing. However, I am not into S with my H and if I were- I would be only thinking of my MM.

Not much help- but I hear ya.

V.

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Registered: 04-22-2004
In reply to: zoezoe2u
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 2:11pm
I am a MW and my MM and I have had sex, and I am still intimate with H also....

I'll admit I do think of MM while I'm with H.... this is still new to me, so I don't know how I feel about it yet. Just having a ton of fun right now!!!!
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Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: zoezoe2u
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 6:47pm

zoezoe,


I am a MW with MM... and I am still very intimate with my DH.

Sweet
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Registered: 03-04-2004
In reply to: zoezoe2u
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 7:22pm
I'm a MM involved with the OW. Before I moved out, I was still having sex with my W maybe once a month, maybe less.

To be honest, I think the thing my W noticed was me no longer begging. That started around last August when my A became more sexual and we were in the same ZIP code. All of a sudden, my W wanted to have sex. I told her the a variation of the truth, that I was tired of begging for affection and that I'd sort of gotten past my very strong sex drive. She didn't buy it either.

She would never admit it, but in the final months of living together our sex (when we had it) was not very passionate. We used to have pretty good sex, but it had sort of reached a state where neither of us were really into it. She was just trying to hang on to us while laying there feeling self conscious and scared, and I just wanted to stop hurting her by trying to pretend for a while that things were fine...To be honest, most of the time it just made me sad.

As for guilty... well, my OW is my sexually perfect person, I believe. Try as I might it was pretty hard to feel really guilty when I was having the kind of wake-the-neighbors, "sorry officer we'll try to keep it down" sex that I've been having...

Still, I practiced safe sex because that's what you should do and I had sex with my W if she initiated it because I still care about her and didn't want her to feel rejected. My only real advice is practice safe sex, and practice often

;)

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