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Registered: 08-29-2003
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Thu, 04-01-2004 - 12:04am
What is a emotional player? I have heard of a "player" but not an emotional one. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks
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Registered: 03-04-2004
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 12:13am
Personally, I would consider an emotional player to be anyone who gets a thrill from getting people interested in them or aroused by them, but then doesn't follow through or return that interest.

There are people who have sex to feel good about themselves. They feel like someone wants them. They feel better.

For some people the same sensation/feeling/buzz can be had from just getting people to want them. If this person is married, he may not really be interested in cheating physically because his sex life with his W is fine (or it isn't and he doesn't care.) However, he might really enjoy the thrill of getting women interested in him.

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Registered: 08-29-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 1:06pm
Well, i read your post and it makes alot of sense but what i dont understand is i dont feel he was emotionally playing me. If that was the case then he wouldve told me he loves me earlier in the relationship but i think he waited until he felt it. I honestly dont believe he is an emotional player. I have spent a year getting to know MM and just doesnt strike me as that type of guy but u never know. He used to be so sweet and would email me all the time saying how much he missed me and was thinking about me and suddenly everything just changed. It really doesnt matter anymore b/c i sent MM an email basically breaking up the A, i really hated doing it over a computer but i have called him and he wont answer the phone so for me to go on with my life i had to do it. I wasnt mean to him, i just simply said how i felt, maybe this will wake MM up but i seriouly doubt it. He seems to not care one way or the other so i am getting off this rollarcoaster ride before anyone else gets hurt.
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 1:31pm
Georgia, re-read your posts. Do you really think the behavior you are describing is that of a man who is truly in love? Don't fool yourself, hon. This man is not capable of loving anyone but himself. He is a jerk and a half and doesn't deserve a minute of your time. Move on and don't look back.

I might sound a bit harsh but it infuriates the hell out of me to see someone play with a woman's emotions like this to boost their sick ego.