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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 4:50pm
I hope that some of you don't take this the wrong way but I have to ask. How many of you embarked on your EMA's to find love? It seems to me, while I'm lurking that there are a lot of unhappy people here. Is there anyone on this board that is just having a wonderful time and enjoying the time spent with their MM. I'm not judging, I'm just trying to understand that if someone were so disappointed with their current situation, why would you stay in it? I love my H but my MM and I enjoy lots of conversation and Great sex (something that is missing in both our marriages). I guess I'm in a different place than most. I wouldn't want anything to change with my EMA. I don't loose sleep if I don't hear from him for a few days (which almost never happens) but if it does, It's all good! We both understand that we have other obligations to other people. I'm not bragging either. I'm just the type that if it hurts don't do it. NMR

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Registered: 03-26-2003
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Wed, 09-24-2003 - 1:25pm
hey nmr -- i totally think like you -- if it hurts, don't do it. MM and i were just talking about this subject this morning. our A has evolved into more than convo and sex, but that's the best part of it. we truly care about each other and want the other to be happy, with or without the A. right now, the A is such an integral part of our lives, we could not give it up. it's like a lifeline.

i've learned to live in the present and "never say never" about life. it's always changing on us.

take care,

gurl

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Wed, 09-24-2003 - 1:56pm
good question nmr! in the last couple of years i have come to the realization that only i can make myself happy. and that's why i've continued on with my A. my MM makes me happy, not lonely. even if i'm alone, i'm not lonely, just alone. i do what i want, when i want to. i've finally become a little selfish after 30 years of caring for H, SOs, children, etc. now it's my time and MM is a big part of that.

take care,

gurl

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Wed, 09-24-2003 - 2:03pm
You go GURL:):) NMR
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Wed, 09-24-2003 - 11:54pm
Good question, NMR, and a nice little reminder that I do have control over how I feel and react to certain things. I guess I can rephrase that MM influences my happiness and my lonliness, but it is what goes on in my own head that formulates how I actually feel.

Annika


Edited 9/24/2003 11:55:38 PM ET by annika13

Brightest Blessings, Annika


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Registered: 09-09-2003
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Thu, 10-09-2003 - 12:01pm
NMR,

I feel the same way. H gives me things I need, and so does MM. The conversation w/MM is gr8 and so is the playfulness. We play like children, but it is so comfortable.

Laugh Smiles

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