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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-07-2008
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Mon, 09-22-2008 - 8:59am
So this is my first time in an A and having one to end (see previous post). So for those of you who have been here before is this something that I will more then likely do again? Maybe that's not the way to ask but after having one A do many of us do this again? I would never advise anyone to have an A because its so emotionally draining but yet so good at times as many of us know. I guess I am just trying to figure out where to go from here. Honestly I don't know if this is something I would do again but I am just curious for others.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2008
In reply to: algirl2008
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 9:15am
I would never have an A again. I know it's never say never but I do hope that after everything I've been through in this A, I would be smart enough to RUN AWAY.

I never looked for someone to have an A with, didn't plan it. I bumped into my old high school love, we planned on being just friend and couldn't. I also doubt I would feel this kind of connection with anyone I already know and especially with anyone I just met.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2007
In reply to: algirl2008
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 9:48am

I had a 3 year A, it was such a roller-coaster and I swore it would be my first and last.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2006
In reply to: algirl2008
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 10:54am
Not I. The only reason I am in an A now is because AP is a long time ,very good friend , and former BF/first love.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-03-2006
In reply to: algirl2008
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 3:33pm
I swore I would never have an affair.

 


 


 


 


 

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2008
In reply to: algirl2008
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 5:04pm
You know something this is a good question. I can say that I woul dnow not do this again. I just could not handle it. BUT I thought about it and I have had A's of some sort in the past. When I was single I had a long term R with a guy that had a GF and I had a BF. Then when I was in my early 20's I had an A with my boss who was M. So I guess it took me a couple of times to figure out that I did not need to keep doing this. i do not think anyone can say one way or the other weather or not you will do it again . I think that it is circumstances, timing and the people involved. So I guess all this rambling I did not really answer anything. LOL







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