A question about fate

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Registered: 01-19-2004
A question about fate
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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 11:00am
This question is intended for those who are in a very serious extramarital affair the second or more time around but others feel free to chime in. I noticed a poll here where majority of the people voted that they would consider their affair partner their soulmate. Then I read another thread where a few of the posters (Red and Whatnow, I think) had indicated that they had been their H's OW. Anybody romantic (including me) would like to believe that destiny or fate had a hand in bringing us together with the OW/OM etc but what when its the second time around? When one looks at that situation it kind of evaporates ones belief in destiny or the comfort level one gets in believing that everything thats happening (the affair) is for a reason and is part of fate's bigger plan and that this OW/OM is that grand partner we were waiting for all our life. Instead it seems that every relationship is what we make it to be regardless of fate.


PG

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Registered: 03-30-2004
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 2:07pm
hey pg, good thread!

maybe i'm just jaded, but i don't believe there's just one person fate throws in front of any of us to love. just as some of us on this board love 2 people at the same time, there must be more than one "soulmate" in a lifetime. i'm too much of a realist (read - non-romantic) to believe that i can bond deeply and wholly with only one person in my life. i know for a fact that is not true, but i hesitate to call either my H or OM my soulmate, even though my life has been infinitely expanded by loving both of them. and giving to both of them. i guess so far, i have 2 soulmates!! lucky me!!

life

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 3:58pm
Maybe it's an age thing... but I agree with Life (at least for me). My H and my MM touch different parts of my soul, but both in such an amazing and life-altering way. I feel really blessed to have both of them in my life, and I just couldn't say that one or the other was my true soul mate. I think they are each half of a whole relationship for me. But that's just me... I still believe that for some people, there really is only one true love of their life (sigh). How uncomplicated and easy that would be.
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 10:34pm

Hey PG,


I have only really scanned what everyone had to say... but just wanted to put my thoughts down... I have never really believed in fate or destiny... I think we all have a hand in the direction that our future lies.

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