Question for all?????

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Question for all?????
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Wed, 02-04-2004 - 12:55pm
For those of you who met OM on-line do you ever wonder if he is talking with anyone else and telling them the same thing he is telling you? I care deeply for my OM but know for a fact that Im not the only one, How can it be love if he is talking with other women? He sent me a e-mail that was meant to be delivered to someone else. I confronted him about it and he said it was just conversation! Im upset and not talking to him any longer.

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Wed, 02-04-2004 - 1:03pm
Personally, I'm not going to deceive myself into thinking I'm in love. I love him, he brings something out in me that's amazing and wonderful, he's making me happy. That's got to be enough, I think, given the situation. Is he involved with someone else? I hope not, but I don't think I have the right to question. And, BTW, neither does he. It is what it is. If you're going to agonize over these types of questions, I wonder if this really is the way for you to go. Sounds like you may need something a little more binding, which is okay too. Maybe first find out what you're wanting, then figure out what fits it best. After all, the most important thing is to find something that makes you happier, not something that makes you miserable. And most important -- please, please, don't give anyone the power to 'crush' your soul. That is yours alone to cherish.
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Wed, 02-04-2004 - 2:11pm

oh, saturday, i couldn't have said it any better, honey!!

CL-Gurlfriend50

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Wed, 02-04-2004 - 2:30pm
I would be upset too. WTH??? How dare he carry on like that with you on the side?? hummph. He doesn't deserve you, soul. Let go..
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Wed, 02-04-2004 - 2:41pm
I was upset and still am. I have not talked with him in while and dont plan to at all. Im so ready to get off this rollercoaster and start thinking of me! Wish me luck, I think Im moving over to the other board. It was a long A almost 4 years.
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Wed, 02-04-2004 - 2:42pm
well, my A isn't online - but I asked point blank "am I the only one you are doing this with". I wanted to know. He also wanted reassurance that he was the only "other" one. Isn't that crazy of us? we are both cheating but we don't want there to be anyone ELSE - he even found a hotel receipt for when me and h went out of town and said "hey are you cheating on me" - it was pretty funny.

sounds like your situation though is not what you want it to be and if he can't keep his stories straight or at least be honest with you then I would dump him.

good luck,

t's secret

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Wed, 02-04-2004 - 2:52pm
secret,



If my OM had another "other" I would kick his butt big time. After telling "i love you" ten thousand times (like today when we were making love or times when we chat) if he was doing somebody else,I would be very angry. It doesn't matter if you are in an A - you can be in it for the fun too - but if you are deeply involved, no way.

Juliet

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Wed, 02-04-2004 - 3:35pm
well we aren't at "I love you" yet - but you're right, if he was I would kick his butt too and especially b/c it would most likely be someone here at work and then I would really kick his butt for hooking up with someone else that I know!! he told me that one of the guys in his dept. is nailing 2-3 different girls at any given time that work here...I can't imagine how they put up with that - if they know, which I doubt they do!!

what crazy sorted webs we weave.

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Wed, 02-04-2004 - 4:06pm
I agree with you,juliet! Hell, my MM couldn't handle another women, the dang thing is about to fall off from all the use I'm getting out of it.LOL! NMR
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Wed, 02-04-2004 - 4:13pm

CL-Gurlfriend50

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Wed, 02-04-2004 - 4:13pm
LMAO!!

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