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Question for all?????
| Wed, 02-04-2004 - 12:55pm |
For those of you who met OM on-line do you ever wonder if he is talking with anyone else and telling them the same thing he is telling you? I care deeply for my OM but know for a fact that Im not the only one, How can it be love if he is talking with other women? He sent me a e-mail that was meant to be delivered to someone else. I confronted him about it and he said it was just conversation! Im upset and not talking to him any longer.

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I met my MM online... and I know for a fact that he chats up other woman... that's him! we met in an adult chat room.
Sweet
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My online love did exactly the same thing a couple of years ago (using yahoo email which I think must have a glitch in it every now and then). And what a fight we had, I went balistic the minute I got the 'wrong' email! You should have heard the 'story' he made up to explain it. He said it was a computer illerate friend of his using his email and writing to this other woman. Like I was ever going to believe that one. So, I tracked this other, other woman down online and chatted with her. After that I knew she was just some skank he was using for some 'dirty talk'. Although he'd sent her pics, you can guess what kind, she'd never seen a pic of his face. Boy, was she dumb. And he never spoke to her again after that. And yes, I did check. Sneaky I know but I had to put my mind to rest.
Now, if he talks to other women online I really don't get too hung up about it. I know he's just fooling around and looking for a bit of light relief. And now I'm much more secure in what I mean to him and what he feels for me and what a big part of his life I am. All is good.
I'm new to the board but have been reading post for awhile now and want to say that it has happen to me. My MM and I have been involved for over 5yrs now. A little over a year ago my MM told me he had been chatting with another woman while ignoring me. He told me how she was planning on meeting him and so on an so on. I was crushed and pissed...after giving him a piece of my mind he said he realized that I was the one he wants and said he ended it with OW. So I forgave him...what a fool I was. LOL Still am. Things were fine for the next few months, so I thought. Then one day he was too busy to chat with me again...so I did a little bit of snooping and low and behold there he was in a chat room. Needless to say I was furious...but just like the time before I forgave him. Our A was fun and exciting in the beginning but at some point it got too serious and the emotional rollercoaster began to take its toll on me. Over the years our A had its ups and downs just like any other R. But at the end of 2003 he said he was confused, W was being so nice to him and he wasn't sure what to do. At this point I had had it, so I emailed him explaining how I felt he should work on his M and for us to end our A. I deleted my email account so there could not be any contact. Well the NC lasted one month. Too my surprise he called me one evening saying how he couldn't live without me. And yes...I welcomed him back into my life. What did I do? I realize that I don't want to ride this rollercoaster any longer. I read post on here and can't help but to think that "Hey that's me...that's my MM" I am slowly backing off from MM. It seems to me that this kind of stuff happens quite a bit...who ever knew. How could I have thought I was the only one? I guess it was all of the I Love you's and begging for forgivness speeches. All I know is that I have learned a valuable lesson from this A...Never allow someone to continue to hurt you, no matter how much it hurts to let them go. I don't know if my story will help you any but at least you know you're not the only one. Sorry this post is soo long.
Good Luck
Livn
I dont know how I could have actually thought I was the only one?
I have learned a valuable lesson that nothing is ever like it seems.
I am determined to keep NC if it kills me and it seems like its taking a toll on me some days but other days I just keep busy so I dont think about emailing.
I know its hard but I have a great deal of will power and Im not going to let him win!
Good luck on NC because I know this roller coaster ride is over for me.
Dusty
Im not saying that all men are like that but I experienced one and will not do that to myself again. way too much pain.
I wish you all the happiness with you om.
\dusty
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