Question for all?

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Question for all?
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Wed, 12-17-2003 - 4:27pm
From being in my affair, I lately have

been really thinking about where this is going?

Where do you see your self and the affair in

five years?

I see my self still married with nothing but

memories of OM.....Sad but so true!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 4:32pm
I see myself still married and still having fun with my MM. The thought of stopping this has never entered my mind or his. Every time, I think that maybe the passion will go away between us one day he (MM) does something really crazy and brings me back down to reality! I'm not going anywhere:):) Good luck to you! NMR
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 4:44pm

I see myself... just the way I am now! married... with MM on the side :)


MM and I are comfortable with what we have... and neither of us want to end it.

Sweet
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 4:52pm
Life,

I see myself still with my MM but as far as my marriage goes that I am not sure about.

SB

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Wed, 12-17-2003 - 5:11pm
In pretty much the same place - happily married, happily spending as much time as I can with OM. That's all either of us wants.
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Wed, 12-17-2003 - 7:09pm
I see myself with children of course. Two of them - I hope. I don't think my affair is going to last that long - in fact I am guessing its going to frizzle out soon.
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Registered: 12-17-2003
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 8:54pm
This is my first post, but boy have I needed/wanted to...

It looks as if I am very different from you all(at least those that have posted on this thread so far). In five years, I see myself divorce from current H (actually this will be reality in Feburuary) and married to current MM. Hopefully we will have a child together by then. From everything he says that is where he wants to be too!

Here's looking for a happy ending for me!

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Registered: 06-29-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 1:37am
Hi Life: I've been there time and again, and yet I'm still involved with my MM after nearly 5 years. Only recently have we begun talking on a serious level about planning a future together, as we know in our hearts that we are miserable without each other. All I can say is that it's been a process and we have come through various stages over the years. Not only do we accept it for what it is, but cherish our love and friendship for each other. I think in long term EMA's it's definitely not the destination but the journey that keeps us involved. We have also become the best of friends, something I never truly had with my DH. What my MM gives me fills a deep void that has been inside of me for so long. I tried to fix my M, and he has tried to fix his, too. But in the end, we still come back to each other, because it simply fits like a glove. Good luck, and search your heart. This could be the love of your life.

Virgogirl

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 9:39am
gosh, life, that's a hard question to answer.

gurl




Edited 2/18/2004 12:38:58 PM ET by gurlfriend50
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Thu, 12-18-2003 - 11:47am
I like to picture myself still married, maybe with a child, but with MM on the side. Isn't it funny how many of us want things to be that way? You'd think most women would have this vision of being together full-time someday. I used to, back when this first started. Since MM's first affair ended up in a long-term marriage, I figured I had a pretty good shot at it (but then at being dumped in another ten years when another hot blond came into his life). MM sees us married someday, though, and I don't think he's going to settle for being part-time forever. I think at some point something's going to break and I think it's going to be his marriage, actually. Either his wife will catch on and kick his butt out (everyone who knows her knows she doesn't NEED him and if he gives her even one iota of crap, he's outta there, which makes me kinda admire her in a way...) or his feelings will get to the point where he'll have to leave. It's still possible she's either cheating on him now or will be someday... There have been tiny indications along the way that she might be. When I think of their marriage ending, it terrifies me because, honestly, I'm not sure I'd WANT to be married to MM. I feel like my life is better with BOTH MM and H in it. I feel like if I had MM full-time, it wouldn't be enough and eventually my attention would start drifting to a sweet, sensitive guy. I think I have to have both the bad guy and good guy in my life. I have to have the fantasy. Plus MM is not my soul mate, not in the slightest. H is the one I see sitting on the front porch with me in our old age. If MM were on the front porch with me, he'd just be ogling all the hot babes walking by. :-)
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Registered: 07-27-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 11:51am
Just don't know...I try not to plan things unless I have to...I just take life one day at a time and try to enjoy each moment for what it is.

Life's not about the destination...it's all about the journey!!!!

Charlotte

 

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