Question for married APs

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Question for married APs
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Wed, 02-11-2009 - 10:31pm

I lurk on these boards and so often I see people make mention of how they and their APs have already talked about how:

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2007
Wed, 02-11-2009 - 11:05pm
in my case it was said at the very beginning of the affair. neither of us was leaving our spouses,although now my AP has been pushing for me to move out and get my own place. i've been looking into it. i'm not doing it for him, but for my own self, i want my independence.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-17-2009
Thu, 02-12-2009 - 2:19pm
In my A, AP was the first to bring it up. A year ago he told me he wanted to be with me and take care of me. He told me that he would be happy with whatever I wanted to give, even if it was just friendship. As time went on, I fell in love with him. Never would I have considered leaving my M a year ago, now, I am on the path of figuring it all out. We talk about it all the time.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2008
Thu, 02-12-2009 - 3:50pm

Talked about it

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2008
Fri, 02-13-2009 - 8:48am
For us, it was discussed right away. Even though we love eachother we know what the expectations are...that we are staying in our marriages and enjoying eachother when we can.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-18-2009
Thu, 02-19-2009 - 11:58pm
With both my AP's, it was discussed from the beginning.

Katie--

Mama to Alyse (5-12-05) and soon-to-be baby (e.d.d. 10-25-10)