Question Moving from Fantasy to Reality

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Question Moving from Fantasy to Reality
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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 12:00pm

Hi.

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 1:02pm

First of all, congratulations on making the step towards getting divorced.

 
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Registered: 04-01-2008
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 1:14pm

Hi Posh04 - Thanks for your encouraging words. My AP has been divorced for a long time now.

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 1:22pm

Lionness!!!

lightning in my heart

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 1:24pm
It
 
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Registered: 04-01-2008
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 2:54pm

Lynn - Happy New Year!!

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Registered: 04-01-2008
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 2:58pm

Posho4 - My therapist just showed me a sign she hung up in her office.

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Registered: 06-15-2007
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 3:27pm

Yes

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 3:43pm
That is a wonderful saying!
 
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Registered: 05-17-2003
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 4:17pm

Hi Posh,

I just wanted to say, I couldn't agree with you more. It does take a strong person to get out of an unhappy marriage...strong & brave. I left my husband a year ago November and it was one of the hardest and scariest things I've ever done in my life. It's still scary but I'm getting the hang of most things now. Unfortunately my H I and do not speak, which is a real shame...I love him as the father of my children and I think it's a sad state of affairs that we can't really communicate, it's something that I've had to learn to accept responsibility for. I'm the one who fell in love with someone else and I just couldn't remain in my M the way I was...the way that most of us feel I daresay, we had absolutely no intimacy and my BF opened my eyes in a big way...I need that in my life ~ and so I left.

Don't really know what I meant to say other than to agree with you.

P.S. At the beginning of my R with BF I'm pretty darned sure he was in it for a short A but he fell in love with me too...he never wanted me to come clean with H but I couldn't deal with the guilt and the lies and the secret life, besides which my H was starting to cotton on because I just don't know how to prevaricate...KWIM? I would have been found out sooner than later so I took the bull by the horns (so to speak). I did the right thing for me.

Take care

benska

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Registered: 04-17-2006
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 7:03pm

Alot of women in an A would kill to be in your position right now..but I think any major change is a bit frightening.,

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