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A question of trust building
| Tue, 11-11-2003 - 7:46pm |
Hi everyone:
Can you please help: here's a brief breakdown of my situation:
On October 05/03, my H discovered my affair and I had no choice but to tell the Wife of my now XMM. To make a long story short, it got very messy. Today I called XMM, hoping to apologize and explain. Well we argued for about an hour. The one thing that he said that caught my attention was 'why in the past 6 weeks have you not tried harder to earn my trust?'. So my question is: what does he mean and it there hope that him and I can go back to before. We were involved for almost 2 years (our 2 year anniversary would have been the end of this month) and if yes, how can I regain his trust..I did after all tell his wife. thank you so much
Can you please help: here's a brief breakdown of my situation:
On October 05/03, my H discovered my affair and I had no choice but to tell the Wife of my now XMM. To make a long story short, it got very messy. Today I called XMM, hoping to apologize and explain. Well we argued for about an hour. The one thing that he said that caught my attention was 'why in the past 6 weeks have you not tried harder to earn my trust?'. So my question is: what does he mean and it there hope that him and I can go back to before. We were involved for almost 2 years (our 2 year anniversary would have been the end of this month) and if yes, how can I regain his trust..I did after all tell his wife. thank you so much

The first thing I want to ask... is why did you have to tell MM's wife??? why was there a need to tell?? the reason I ask is because I got caught early on in my EMA by my DH... did I spill the beans? never! not in a million years would I have thought a need to tell MM's wife... regardless of circumstances... that is something that he would need to do... and not me.
I can't explain what he has meant by what he said... and put in the same situation... I'm not sure that I would trust my MM again.
Sweet
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Edited 11/11/2003 10:17:56 PM ET by cheshierfire
PS: I just read a post you made on the other board just a few minutes before you posted on this one. Please read it over and over it should help you because clearly you are confused and don't know what you want to do. Sweetie he is a JERK!!!
Edited 11/12/2003 8:43:40 AM ET by sally289
you need to run the other way from xMM. he's obviously lying about leaving her after xmas. why would his W lie? does she have anything to gain, except maybe keeping a lying, cheating, hand-always-out bast__ard! let her keep him!
fix your M as best you can and please, please, please retain your dignity girl!
gurl