Questions???

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Registered: 08-28-2004
Questions???
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Thu, 08-13-2009 - 6:45pm

I've been in my A for about a year. He's a MM and I'm MW but me and husband just seperated about 2 weeks ago.


But my question is: Does anyone else besides me obssessively wait for AP to call or text u?


Another issue I have is that when AP and I have plans and he's not able to make it, I feel devastated and pretty much don't know what to do with myself for most of that day. Anyone experience these things besides me?

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Registered: 07-24-2009
In reply to: caribu79
Thu, 08-13-2009 - 7:09pm

Caribu,

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Registered: 05-17-2003
In reply to: caribu79
Thu, 08-13-2009 - 10:20pm

Hi caribu79,


Wow, I told you that we could be the same person! I probably wrote pretty much the same thing a year ago.

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Registered: 08-28-2004
In reply to: caribu79
Thu, 08-13-2009 - 11:45pm

Anotherfive,


Thanks for your response, it's nice to know I'm not alone in feeling this. Hopefully it will get easier somehow. I need to keep busier. I'm working on it.

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Registered: 08-12-2009
In reply to: caribu79
Thu, 08-13-2009 - 11:47pm

Hi Caribu,


I have been in my A for close to 10 years, liking a couple of months. I used to be the MW while my AP was single, and now the tables have turned. I left my H, and my AP ended up M. My story is posted. Here are my thoughts on your questions:


I think you will find that most all of us get a little impatient or for a lack of better words, "antsy" when the communication is not as frequent as we hope or wish for. This is especially true when one of the married partners leave their spouse to either be with their AP or be more available to their AP. Also, one will

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Registered: 08-28-2004
In reply to: caribu79
Fri, 08-14-2009 - 12:17am

Hi Benska,


Thanks for responding. You asked how my seperation is going? I don't know how to answer that. It was mutual between my H and I. He is a decent guy but very very very very unaffectionate and selfish.

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Registered: 08-28-2004
In reply to: caribu79
Fri, 08-14-2009 - 1:00am

Sweetpea,


Thanks for your wise words. All that you said really helped me to have more clarity on some issues I was having. I'm glad I have somewhere to come and talk to others who understand. Thank you again.

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Registered: 08-14-2009
In reply to: caribu79
Fri, 08-14-2009 - 1:43am
That's why I am here too.
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Registered: 01-27-2008
In reply to: caribu79
Fri, 08-14-2009 - 4:59am

hi sweet, let me thankyou for writing such a wonderfull post. It has lifted my spirits no end. I have just separated from my H, and ive been in affair for 2 years. AP and I aim to be together but that is not why i left H. Who knows what the future brings and either it works out or not with AP that is another chapter in my life i will deal with. But yours words ring true. I think their are times i tend to forget that although my situation has changed, his has not. I dont want him to leave his M before he his ready to. He cant at the moment anyway due to other commitments that he needs to concentrate on, and leaving and disrupting his life at this moment could have a detrimental effect on his personal future. He has

"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"


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Registered: 08-28-2004
In reply to: caribu79
Sat, 08-15-2009 - 10:51am

Hi Zeqiq,


I dont mind if you share your experience on this post. It really helps to see others experiences. Thanks for responding. It's so good to know I'm not the only one going bonkers sometimes. lol. Not that I want anyone to feel like they're going nuts. lol

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Registered: 08-28-2004
In reply to: caribu79
Sat, 08-15-2009 - 10:55am

I agree with you. Sweetpeas post was uplifting and really spoke to me too.


I was wondering when did you and your H seperate? How do you feel about it? Is it hard for you sometimes?

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