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| Mon, 11-03-2003 - 2:30pm |
I have a male friend that I have always been attracted to and some how through out our lives we just never got to hook up. So one day I called him out of the blue to hook up and hang out to see how he's been up to ( MY G~D HE'S STILL HANDSOME AS HELL .) That was about a year ago.
Now he is with a woman who he claims he is not going to marry and she has a child. They have no children together. They have been together for about five or six years. In addition, they now live together. They haven't had a very steady relationship.
Me on the other hand just got engaged and was a year ago looking for that one last MAN TO DO before my boyfriend asked me to marry him. I knew it was coming (the engagement) we were celebrating out six year anniversary together. Now I am engaged and I am still seeing this guy any and every chance I get and he's always willing to come out and play.
The last time we hung out he rubbed my feet and he started to kiss my neck. I soooo didn't want him to stop, but I couldn't help but think that in ten years down the road say he gets into a fight with the girlfriend and say's "OH YEAH WELL.... BLAH, BLAH. Do you know what I mean? And I have some chick hunting me down to tell my fiancée/by then husband the lo down. I think that I could do him and get away with it as long as he keeps his mouth shut. I don't want to ever leave my man for him or anything. I'm so happy with him and I just don't know or think that my male friend and I could ever hook up. I am already committed and I know this. I really wanted to have all this stuff taken care of and moved on by the time my man asked me to marry him, but I ran out of time. EVERY time I am around my male friend I turn to mush. I can't talk or think. I can't even be aggressive with him in a sexual way because I'm so shy and that's not me. I have hook us up with a hotel to see what becomes of it. We have had so many chances to do it let's see what a night in a room to ourselves will bring. What should I do? He has nothing to loose and I have everything to loose because I could never tell my partner about it.
Now he is with a woman who he claims he is not going to marry and she has a child. They have no children together. They have been together for about five or six years. In addition, they now live together. They haven't had a very steady relationship.
Me on the other hand just got engaged and was a year ago looking for that one last MAN TO DO before my boyfriend asked me to marry him. I knew it was coming (the engagement) we were celebrating out six year anniversary together. Now I am engaged and I am still seeing this guy any and every chance I get and he's always willing to come out and play.
The last time we hung out he rubbed my feet and he started to kiss my neck. I soooo didn't want him to stop, but I couldn't help but think that in ten years down the road say he gets into a fight with the girlfriend and say's "OH YEAH WELL.... BLAH, BLAH. Do you know what I mean? And I have some chick hunting me down to tell my fiancée/by then husband the lo down. I think that I could do him and get away with it as long as he keeps his mouth shut. I don't want to ever leave my man for him or anything. I'm so happy with him and I just don't know or think that my male friend and I could ever hook up. I am already committed and I know this. I really wanted to have all this stuff taken care of and moved on by the time my man asked me to marry him, but I ran out of time. EVERY time I am around my male friend I turn to mush. I can't talk or think. I can't even be aggressive with him in a sexual way because I'm so shy and that's not me. I have hook us up with a hotel to see what becomes of it. We have had so many chances to do it let's see what a night in a room to ourselves will bring. What should I do? He has nothing to loose and I have everything to loose because I could never tell my partner about it.

and you're still single (not married, just engaged), so you still have choices for your future. OM is with a GF, living together, which is the same amount of committment you have. but you are not even married yet and you cannot settle down to one man. so why are you pursuing both a marriage and an affair??
think about what YOU want -- a marriage, monogamy with a man you love, or a single, dating life?? or both?? it's hard to keep all of it up in the air, at the same time. be careful how you proceed.
and good luck,
gurl