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Questions stuck in my head
| Wed, 12-17-2003 - 4:16pm |
I haven't posted on here in a while. Still have the same questions in my head as always, they just don't go away. At beginning of relationship with MM he would talk really flattering, complimentary all the time, date-like. Of course after time (2 years) that's pretty cut down, I guess the same in a "normal" relationship does. Occasionally he says the really nice things, just not alot. I know we got into this for the sex, but I always wonder if he does have SOME feelings for me, just a smidgeon maybe?
For one thing, he has to cross the border into another country to visit me, and he does that usually every week when we can. If it was purely for sex, he could find someone closer to him right? And he is a very thoughtful lover, always wanting to make sure I am totally satisfied or else he's not.
Guess I'm on a fishing expedition here, although I have no expectations of him, I read alot on here about the men only wanting women for sex, but is that really true? Would appreciate opinions on this.

I have actually heard the same opinion from my H. I do think it is easier for men to leave their emotions out of their affair. My H actually told me recently that men can have sex without it being emotional.
Dusty, your MM probably does really care for you. You may have to look for his signs of love closely and realize that these little signs are his way of telling you that he cares deeply for you.
I, too, am always looking for that reassurance from my MM. He won't say the "L" word, but he shows it in a lot of ways.
"actions speak louder than words" although it's nice to hear the words too!
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Edited 2/18/2004 12:18:42 PM ET by gurlfriend50
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