ready to show up on his doorstep!

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ready to show up on his doorstep!
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Sat, 03-27-2004 - 6:38pm
I am ready for the big blow up! I feel so used. This is so unfair! My life is a mess. Can't function at work or anything. I feel like my life is over.
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 7:21pm
Trouble, call him blocked first, if you can, its better than showing up at his door step. If all else fails we have Rain, Omaha, Partner Stars&Angels, take your pick. Boston is taken. :-) I know I am kidding, but I am really hoping I can get you to smile.
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Sat, 03-27-2004 - 10:31pm
Ugh! I really do have to invest in high-speed at home. This is so much easier from work. Anyway...

(((trouble))) You have been so supportive of me this week, and I want you to know that I know exactly what you're going through. If you want my advice, which may not be very good at this point since I'm a little raw, but DO NOT call, DO NOT show up at his doorstep. Let him think that it doesn't matter. I know, I know, very hard for us to do. These friggin' $!@$#@!, expect us to wait around for them, and then everything be peachy and we're all happy (for what, two seconds?) when they pay us an iota of attention. Well, SCREW them!

Sorry, I told you, I'm raw.

We're strong women! We deserve better! Unfortunately, we are givers, they are takers - the nature of the beast! Ooooo, this makes me sooo mad!

Honey, I know it's hard, but you are better than this. Demand respect! The only way to get it, is to make it seem like you are ignoring him, not the other way around. When he comes grovelling (which he will), snuff him off. Easier said than done, but you can do it! Put the shoe on the other foot - then see what happens.

Okay, my heart-broken two cents may seem quite bitter (which it is), but I can't help it right now. My H is crying today, while my XMM is getting off scott-free. Where is the justice? Sorry again, my anger is coming out.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

(((((((((xxx_trouble)))))))

Red

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Sat, 03-27-2004 - 10:41pm
NUH UHHHHHHH...

RAIN is TAKENNNNNNNNN...

seriously though...to a point I agree with Red on the next post, but the confronting the A$$ and telling him that you have put a lot of time and effort into what the 2 of you have had over the past years, and that you definitely deserve better, is really another way of being strong...as long as you confront him STRONGLY, and don't break down in tears the first time you see him...

Just my 2c

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Registered: 06-16-2003
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 10:44pm
You mean I'm not the only one secretly in love with Rain? *sigh*

~notso
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Sun, 03-28-2004 - 12:48am
Why don't you embrace your anger and use it to your advantage? We can either fly off the handle or maintain excellent control of ANY situation when we use our fury. Don't call him..make him come to you and then blow him off. You're too good for this..WE are too good for the garbage they dish us.
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Sun, 03-28-2004 - 6:45am
Can I take Omaha??? *grin* He sounds like a wild kind of guy. :-)
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Sun, 03-28-2004 - 8:02am
I agree with some of the other posters who said that you should not call him. Make him come to you, which he probably will, and then ignore him. Let him feel some of what you are feeling right now. It's not fair that he should get carte blanche to do whatever he wants! Stay strong!!!

:)

Circe