A real possibility of his divorce??

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Registered: 07-25-2003
A real possibility of his divorce??
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Tue, 07-29-2003 - 11:24am
Hi everybody!!

I have never been married, but the man I am seeing is.

I told him that I needed him to take the next step -divorce- because I was no longer content with our actual situation.

But he finds this task way to difficult. I understand this because he has been married for 25 years.

I would like to ask you if you think there is a real chance to get out of such long marriage. Mysecretsout is in a similar case and she thinks that there are so little chances of it.

Do you think there is A REAL chance?? Have you ever known A REAL case?

Do you think there is a chance that he could be saying this in order to keep both options?

I am deeply confused!!!!!!

Thanx a lot

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 08-07-2003 - 10:04pm
My cowardly MM requested a divorce from his W only after I revealed our involvement. I never asked him to leave for me; I only revealed the A to push him out of my life. While the divorce was pending he proposed to me, only to resent me in the long run. Needless-to-say, we never married. I think you never can tell. Even if your MM does initiate divorce proceedings, you may still end up without him.
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Registered: 07-09-2003
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 12:14am
hi all...my situation was like hopes and ladyinwaitings also...i've been in my A for just over a yr now...at xmas he promised never again would we have to spend xmas apart...the idea was he'd plan to leave...well...it just had'nt happened up until a few weeks ago... oh he's plannin now...after the W found out about us...its real messy to get caught...especially if u r in love...anyways i'm not waiting forever and he knows it...actually i'm not waiting for long at all...i'm packing my things and preparing for the big move...because thats our plan... the mm told me he would leave even if i wasn't in the picture...he didn't know if he would ever have left if we hadn't met tho..but he says now he knows life can be so rewarding and fun with a partner...but we both did find luv within each other...i can actually look at this man and imagine spending the rest of my life with him...so if it doesn't work out it will b hard to walk away with so much luv in my heart...but i have to take care of myself...so i belive there is hope for u...just do it with a plan dont' get caught...if u really wanna stay together til he leaves that is...this past winter i tried ending it...saying when u r single come see me...well it just didnt work...so believe me i have lots of hindsight...


best of luck

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Registered: 08-08-2003
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 12:58am
I was in a similar situation. Mine is now in the process of a divorce. But, it is worse now than it was before they filed. Be careful. Be sure. Everyone in my town and surrounding towns knows of our situation and think I'm the cause of the divorce. It sucks. Things are not the same between us anymore. We don't go out in public anymore. I have broken up with him three times in the last couple of months, but keep taking him back because I love him. I'm not allowed to be around their kids. I feel like the bad person even though they were on the outs before I started seeing him. They hadn't slept together in two years. She called me and told me I could have him. That she didn't want him. Now she wants to beat me up. How dumb. Good luck!!!! Mine was married for eight years and has two children. The divorce will be final this month (21st). Best wishes!!

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