Reality Bites

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Reality Bites
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Mon, 11-15-2010 - 11:06pm

Hi MAS. I mostly lurk sometimes post basically out of fear of being found out. Thought I would post my latest mess.lol

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Registered: 10-18-2009
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 2:31am

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Registered: 05-19-2010
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 9:30am

This new info will definitely change your A now. What I would be concerned is more about your sexual health . If your AP starts banging the new OW, you need to be careful . He may not even tell you about that with the fear of losing your side of sex, kwim?

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 10:03am
That's exactly how I feel too. I'm on the verge of ending it. I don't think I can trust him. Though I wonder why he felt comfortable enough to tell me about the ex-gf to begin with? Why he thought I wouldn't question it? And yes your right my sexual health is important and I don't want any issues to deal with. I told him I needed time to sort this out....let's see how long it lasts before he contacts me.
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Registered: 06-06-2010
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 11:04am
I thought I had a wonderful affair, earth-moving sex and a very easy going MW until my AP person told me that she had a co-worker that she has been trying to seduce. Yes it definitely changed my attitudes towards our affair, and needless to say that we ended things. t sounds selfish, but if I were you I would be bothered by the fact that he is hiding the FB friendship from W. It seems that there is something going on-hence the hiding
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Registered: 10-03-2009
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 12:12pm

I think he may think that you'll make nothing out of it since you are his AP.

But, I almost sense a condescending attittude towards you from his quotes.. as you notice... Affair or not, the first thing I demand in any R is basic human respect.

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 12:22pm
I remember your posts. At least she told you her intentions. I'm not getting much out of AP. He has said there is no one else. But I def do not feel comfortable with this "hidden friend" If you read the boards it happens all the time...people re connect with old flames and then a A starts emotions and drama. Plus this fb friend was a A he had in school...when he was dating his now wife....ughhhhh....I have a,bad feeling...I,need to go with my gut...Now that your out of your A do you feel better? Indifferent? Did you find another? I don't want another AP.
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Registered: 06-06-2010
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 2:18pm

Not sure if I feel better, but so far I have resisted temptations to go back to AM, lol!

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Tue, 11-16-2010 - 7:01pm

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Thu, 11-18-2010 - 12:43pm
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Registered: 03-30-2010
Thu, 11-18-2010 - 2:41pm

I think that the info he did share with you he didn't have to. He told you without really any hesitation. If you feel this FB buddy/xgirlfriend could be is AP # 2 then why not ask him. Depending on his answer you might not believe either one but you can always go with your gut feeling. Have a face to face chat with him and tell him you don't feel comfortable with another AP in the picture if you both are seeing each other. You have some type of feelings for him which is why its bothering you. The longer you stay with AP the emotions will only get deeper.

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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